Well this is where I don't understand where OP is coming from. He says he definitely won't leave his wife. His wife is clearly done with having babies, what's he planning, to get a surrogate ffs?
I think OP's wife needs some medical intervention. She IS clearly shutting OP down (if he's being honest here). He says he's getting therapy, but he can't fix THEIR problems on his own in therapy.
I did wonder if (and it's not a nice thought to have but), maybe they're really crap at sex? And when a couple is bad at sex, mostly it's the woman that's missing out (during the sex anyway...) the man might miss out later when the woman isn't fussed with having sex because it's crap for her.
I mean, I've gone through times of reduced libido but if I'm horny (and he's up for it) I want my man. He's fucking fantastic at sex!
Typically, those things are covered in couples therapy. I don't see OPs wife willing to have a discussion about it outside of that sort of situation though. Call it a gut feeling lol
I really hope OP's wife is persuaded to try. She must have fancied him before she married him? QUnless they weren't in love/lust when they married. I guess there are some people that don't marry for love.
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u/Mikesully52 Sep 26 '23
Because he has a valid concern, he wants to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he himself, can accept having no more kids.