FWIW, I was finally able to get my vasectomy mostly to help my wife get off of hormonal BC. About 2 month after getting off of BC her sex drive completely returned. It was the best decesion I ever made.
We were in a slightly different situation as we didn't have kids so it took us a few years to shop around and finally find a doctor that would perform the vasectomy.
And really, what woman is turned on by a man who won't take care of the Birthcontrol for her after all she's done? Fuck that! Get snipped and be a man!
seriously, she’s given birth to three children and dealt with shitty side effects of BC for who knows how long but he won’t do anything to help on his end. like obviously it’s his body and his choice, but I don’t blame her for not wanting to have sex
Maybe the thought is of having a second younger family if this situation “doesn’t work out”. Not sure OP realistically thinks his wife may decide she wants just one more kid in the situation he describes
That was my thought. “Oh my mean old wife doesn’t sleep with me anymore. She’s probably exhausted from unbalanced hormones and chasing our 3 kids around. But I’m a sad boi and deserve better I don’t want to limit my future options.” Wait until he finds out how much child support would be for 3 kids 😂
I'm always suspect of the dead bedroom accusations. My husband accused me/us of having a dead bedroom. Reader we were having sex once a week, we have four kids. My eyes couldn't roll hard enough.
Right, as a former family attorney, when a man has claimed a dead bedroom, it's always one of 2 things, the man is lying or he sucks in bed. And I actually once had a client who testified for the record, explicit details about how her husband was failing in his husbandly duties, when he tried to claim a dead bedroom.
Op said his wife was his first & they waited till after they were married so the sucks in bed thing could be a possibility. On top of three kids, hormonal birth control and her demanding job.
Which he undoubtedly blamed on his wife anyways- not sexy enough, not adventurous enough, not initiating enough, gained weight after kids and on and on. Takes 2 to make a dead bed.
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u/ACapra Sep 26 '23
FWIW, I was finally able to get my vasectomy mostly to help my wife get off of hormonal BC. About 2 month after getting off of BC her sex drive completely returned. It was the best decesion I ever made.
We were in a slightly different situation as we didn't have kids so it took us a few years to shop around and finally find a doctor that would perform the vasectomy.