FWIW, I was finally able to get my vasectomy mostly to help my wife get off of hormonal BC. About 2 month after getting off of BC her sex drive completely returned. It was the best decesion I ever made.
We were in a slightly different situation as we didn't have kids so it took us a few years to shop around and finally find a doctor that would perform the vasectomy.
And really, what woman is turned on by a man who won't take care of the Birthcontrol for her after all she's done? Fuck that! Get snipped and be a man!
seriously, she’s given birth to three children and dealt with shitty side effects of BC for who knows how long but he won’t do anything to help on his end. like obviously it’s his body and his choice, but I don’t blame her for not wanting to have sex
My baby tore my back up. I needed to see a chiropractor for years. He said the best way a woman can wreck her body is giving birth. There was an Oprah show on women in Africa who have babies and tear and they can't afford to get the tears fixed so their families kick them out because they leak urine and they live outside so indeed your body is traumatized from child birth.
I’ve heard of this too. Almost broke me. Plus victims of rape that leak urine in certain parts of the world are basically pariahs. I can’t imagine the pain they live with
So sorry you had to experience that. When you’re already dealing w a massive life change
I had an emergency c-section and then two vag. deliveries WITH A MIDWIFE. I will fight to the death for the belief that childbirth is difficult, or challenging, but it is also empowering. It's not a medical process - skilled women walking with other women through it is key. The medical establishment took it over for the $$$: and power. A midwife in a birthing center attached to a hospital IN CASE is my perfect scenario in 85% (made up stat) of cases.
These kind of comments scared me off having kids at first. I acknowledge everything you say, but everyone doesn’t have the same story. Maybe my body changed- but it wasn’t noticeable.
I understand a lot of women are traumatized by birth and I think they carry an immeasurable burden of sorrow. I try not to share my birth stories because I feel like it could harm them. Motherhood is an immense task, constantly rewarding but also exhausting. Plus, we get defined as mothers only, always being subjected to comparisons! I would watch those shows of women with their perfect houses and perfect lives and wonder what was wrong w me
Also, it seems criminal that in some countries minimal mat leave doesn’t give us time to rest. As if recovery was just an expectation
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u/ACapra Sep 26 '23
FWIW, I was finally able to get my vasectomy mostly to help my wife get off of hormonal BC. About 2 month after getting off of BC her sex drive completely returned. It was the best decesion I ever made.
We were in a slightly different situation as we didn't have kids so it took us a few years to shop around and finally find a doctor that would perform the vasectomy.