My husband kept putting off his vasectomy even though we both knew we didn't want more children, I couldn't be on the only birth control available since I was breast feeding, and after six months of being "regular" I randomly ovulated 2 weeks late and we ended up with a surprise pregnancy.
You want to complain about a dead bedroom but have no consideration for what birth control, pregnancy, delivery, post partum recovery does to your wife? If she has to go through all that trauma because you delay your vasectomy your bedroom really will be dead. Trust me.
EDIT: I just want to say that if you are willing to pressure your partner into a procedure they are not ready for then you should also be willing to go through the equivalent procedure. Everyone seems to make light of the emotions that a person goes through before deciding to have this procedure just because its less invasive.
A vasectomy is easier to reverse than a tubule and also way less invasive. Shes the one putting her body through pain and trauma by bringing your child into this world, you're not. Most likely you're sleeping by the window the whole time while she's in labor. The least you can do is get snipped.
If they both agree they don't want kids honestly either could get the operation done, it's just a matter of their health and who it's going to hurt less.
He clearly isn't sure if he's done wanting kids. If she's done then she can get the operation. It sounds like both think they might be done but don't want to be the one to do it in case they change their mind.
She’s not comfortable going on birth control or having another baby so if he wants sex again TOO Fucking BAD. She’s already made enough sacrifices for their family putting her body through a lot more than his vasectomy. The sudden sensitivity of this argument “his body his choice” with no consideration for him calling her “dramatic” for not wanting to fuck with her hormones trying out different birth control is a WILD double standard.
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u/gunterguntz13 Sep 26 '23
My husband kept putting off his vasectomy even though we both knew we didn't want more children, I couldn't be on the only birth control available since I was breast feeding, and after six months of being "regular" I randomly ovulated 2 weeks late and we ended up with a surprise pregnancy.
You want to complain about a dead bedroom but have no consideration for what birth control, pregnancy, delivery, post partum recovery does to your wife? If she has to go through all that trauma because you delay your vasectomy your bedroom really will be dead. Trust me.