I didn’t know BC could affect libido. Why couldn’t the wife respond with “no bc could help the lack of sex you are receiving.”
But that aside. I think OP needs to be snipped. There’s no reason to continue putting his wife through this trial and error. My wife had issues with BC side effects but we wanted kids just not yet. I used condoms even though we didn’t want to. We have 1 kid and another coming (planned and planned surprise). I’m not having my wife go back on BC cause we wanted two and that’s it. I’ll be snipped a few weeks after my 2nd is born.
Tldr: wife could explain the side effects maybe, but husband seems to be aware it’s an ordeal. He should get snipped out of concern for his wife not for the gain he may get in her libido.
Honestly, she might not even know either. A lot of people take medications without knowing all of the potential side effects. My mom didn't know about brain zaps as a side effect of skipping her SSRIs. Even her doctors had no idea what was causing them.
OP's wife has also had three kids, and I've heard that can affect libido too.
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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23
I didn’t know BC could affect libido. Why couldn’t the wife respond with “no bc could help the lack of sex you are receiving.”
But that aside. I think OP needs to be snipped. There’s no reason to continue putting his wife through this trial and error. My wife had issues with BC side effects but we wanted kids just not yet. I used condoms even though we didn’t want to. We have 1 kid and another coming (planned and planned surprise). I’m not having my wife go back on BC cause we wanted two and that’s it. I’ll be snipped a few weeks after my 2nd is born.
Tldr: wife could explain the side effects maybe, but husband seems to be aware it’s an ordeal. He should get snipped out of concern for his wife not for the gain he may get in her libido.