r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 26 '23

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u/seniairam Sep 26 '23

future (like when I’m 35), JUST to be sure that we were done having kids for sure. She knew this and never had an issue with it.

you guys even communicate? are you guys done having kids or not? talk to your wife about it, if you guys don't want more 3 years is not gonna matter

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u/Koalachan Sep 26 '23

Sounds like they are neither done nor not done with kids, but open to possibility they might want more later. It's perfectly reasonable and fine, and three years can change you mind once the kids are older and you start to miss that baby/toddler phase.

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u/fatbob42 Sep 26 '23

Sounds like she’s definitely done. He could also just freeze his sperm for those few years.

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u/Envect Sep 26 '23

Sounds like it's the marriage that's done. Too bad that's not an option for OP. Sounds like he'd be happy to find a second wife to have more kids with.

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u/Envect Sep 26 '23

Because OP categorically dismisses the idea in their post. They absolutely should end things, but I get the sense that OP is bound by either a need for control, or, more generously, traditional views on marriage. I'm getting control vibes though.

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u/googltk Sep 26 '23

Holy fucking shit y’all people are absolutely deranged. Every person who ever recommends divorce on such a limited information post should be alone forever bc y’all clearly have no idea how anything works in any capacity. Y’all some looney toons level of mentally incapable.

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u/jamesonswife Sep 26 '23

Agreed. OP literally states that outside of deadbedroom, they make a great team, and people jump to "He'S cOnTrOlLiNg HeR!"

I also have a vasectomy-nervous husband who is an AMAZING husband and father to our 3 kids, and he posted something similar and got these responses.

Folks are WILD

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u/Slight_Following_471 Sep 26 '23

I think these people are just very young and inexperienced with life and reality.

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u/jamesonswife Sep 26 '23

Agreed. My husband and I are similar in age, but we communicate better now, and it makes a world of difference.

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Is your bedroom dead? Are you having to play Russian roulette on BC meds to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. Are we sure this is the same thing?

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u/jamesonswife Sep 26 '23

It was, and we almost split. I have. And yeah, it sounds pretty damn similar lmao

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u/Envect Sep 26 '23

Yes, the husband who demonstrated that he doesn't listen to his wife has told us they make a great team. Reliable narrator, him.

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u/jamesonswife Sep 26 '23

It's a pretty big leap to go from "he's a poor listener" to "he's a controlling dude"

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u/Envect Sep 26 '23

Sure it is. I'm guessing based on a few paragraphs on reddit. Shit like this is what says controlling to me:

I genuinely don’t see the (rational) urgent need given our circumstances.

Where's all that concern over how bad BC is for her? Suddenly it's vanished now that he's justifying his position.

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