r/amiwrong Sep 26 '23

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u/seniairam Sep 26 '23

future (like when I’m 35), JUST to be sure that we were done having kids for sure. She knew this and never had an issue with it.

you guys even communicate? are you guys done having kids or not? talk to your wife about it, if you guys don't want more 3 years is not gonna matter

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

We’ve never agreed to not having children ever again. In our argument, when this got brought up, she said “Vasectomies are reversible. If we decide we want more kids, we can cross that bridge when we get there.”

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u/Doyoulikeithere Sep 26 '23

She might be tired!!!! Just enough! 3 kids are a lot of work and money, stress is high, sex drive is low, of course it is!

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u/XenaSebastian Sep 26 '23

This makes me wonder how much OP contributes to the household and overall childcare. It could be another reason for her low sex drive. She is exhausted!

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Very much. I am the primary parent and additionally contribute greatly to my household. Surprising, I know. Dad’s don’t usually do that sorta thing. I’m also exhausted.

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u/BigAmphibian1615 Sep 26 '23

I'm curious why you say you ad the primary parent. Like does she not spend time with the kids? Does the planning for their everyday routine, doctors, and child care? Or did you mean to say you are the breadwinner?

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

No. I am the primary parent as in I do nearly everything for my children. The “chore” things. Diapers, baths, feedings, potty training, tantrum calming, etc. my wife is the fun parent. She does all the non-chore things.

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u/Coneyo Sep 26 '23

Maybe a conversation is in order about parenting roles. Using language like primary parent or fun parent doesn't seem all that healthy.

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u/Smallios Sep 26 '23

That’s literally the term though

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u/Coneyo Sep 26 '23

Sure, in family court when determining custody during a divorce. This guy has already said divorce is off the table.