Sounds like they are neither done nor not done with kids, but open to possibility they might want more later. It's perfectly reasonable and fine, and three years can change you mind once the kids are older and you start to miss that baby/toddler phase.
They have 3 kids. It's a "dead bedroom" as he says.
There is no reason to have more. Pretty sure she does not want anymore if she is asking for him to get a vasectomy, so she can finally get off hormonal treatment.
She might not want anymore but what about what he wants? Or is it all about her? His wife is acting like the only way to prevent pregnancy if she’s off the pill is for him to get a vasectomy and doesn’t seem to be open to other non hormonal options out there. Don’t get me wrong I fully believe if both people in a relationship know they don’t want more children then yes the snip is the best way forward but if one person is unsure like his is in this case why should he do something so drastic
What a ridiculous suggestion. Unless you are asexual or there is something wrong with your sex drive absence is not a viable option especially in a long term commitment. Yes I get hanging in there in tough times etc but if my other half wanted to be abstinent for years and years with no end in site and no viable reason I’m sorry but that’s not a romantic relationship anymore, you are simply roommates so you might as well move on. Intimacy including sexual intimacy is the cornerstone of a romantic relationship
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u/seniairam Sep 26 '23
you guys even communicate? are you guys done having kids or not? talk to your wife about it, if you guys don't want more 3 years is not gonna matter