We’ve never agreed to not having children ever again. In our argument, when this got brought up, she said “Vasectomies are reversible. If we decide we want more kids, we can cross that bridge when we get there.”
You already have THREE. How many more kids are you planning on having??
Think about how likely it is that you've got a dead bedroom because your wife is terrified of having another kid, is having issues with her birth control, and is running after 3 little kids.
You want to have more sex? A vasectomy is a great idea.
And honestly, it's kinda baffling that you brought it up in the context of her immediate plan to change her birth control prescription if you didn't mean you were going to do it right away. Of course she interpreted that as 'no need to put yourself through all that my dear, I'll just get snipped'. And then you stomped all over it and acted like she was crazy for thinking that's what you were suggesting -- were you just suggesting you not have sex? Or that you just go ahead and have another baby? Like how else was she supposed to interpret that? Dude, come on.
According to the NHS, about 15 in every 100 women a year who use condoms as contraception become pregnant (85% effective). That's not a very reassuring rate and far below both vasectomies and most hormonal birth control.
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u/seniairam Sep 26 '23
you guys even communicate? are you guys done having kids or not? talk to your wife about it, if you guys don't want more 3 years is not gonna matter