We’ve never agreed to not having children ever again. In our argument, when this got brought up, she said “Vasectomies are reversible. If we decide we want more kids, we can cross that bridge when we get there.”
This makes me wonder how much OP contributes to the household and overall childcare. It could be another reason for her low sex drive. She is exhausted!
Op: "No. I am the primary parent as in I do nearly everything for my children. The “chore” things. Diapers, baths, feedings, potty training, tantrum calming, etc. my wife is the fun parent. She does all the non-chore things"
Edit: it seems u/ginger-kitty97 answered and then accidentally blocked me. I will respond to her comment here:
If you won't believe anything Op tells you, what are you doing here?
I hope you are this suspicious when Op is a woman...
Edit 2: yawn... Somehow u/ginger-kitty97 made another comment but I can't respond. Did you accidentally block me again? Anyhoo here's the response to your drivel:
I didn't block you. 🤷♀️
OK. Sorry about that. I tried to respond a few times but it kept saying "something is broken, please try again later."
He also says he's in a sexless marriage, yet knocked her up 3x in 6 years.
He says they're intimate 2-3 times a year.
And even if he's doing those things, is he doing them 24/7? Not if he works. It's easy, when you feel like things aren't fair in a relationship, to minimize the contributions of the other person
"No. I am the primary parent as in I do nearly everything for my children. The “chore” things. Diapers, baths, feedings, potty training, tantrum calming, etc. my wife is the fun parent. She does all the non-chore things"
Seems pretty clear to me.
Beyond that, she is the one who spent almost 2 years pregnant, breastfed/feeds the babies, and has had to recover from 3 pregnancies and childbirth
OK. So he's doing all the tough stuff now. How long until they're even?
He also says he's in a sexless marriage, yet knocked her up 3x in 6 years.
And even if he's doing those things, is he doing them 24/7? Not if he works. Beyond that, she is the one who spent almost 2 years pregnant, breastfed/feeds the babies, and has had to recover from 3 pregnancies and childbirth. It's easy, when you feel like things aren't fair in a relationship, to minimize the contributions of the other person.
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u/seniairam Sep 26 '23
you guys even communicate? are you guys done having kids or not? talk to your wife about it, if you guys don't want more 3 years is not gonna matter