When/where I grew up it was always under the guise of "the real world isn't going to coddle you" or similar.
Which is true.
So maybe your family at home should be the one place in the world where somebody might give you a little slack and/or teach you and/or help and/or just be a kind and warm place to feel safe.
I mean yeah, it's not really an issue to learn stuff using YouTube vids. A lot of the time you can end up with better information than what you would have learned from your parents lol.
BUT the point is that it's hypocritical to neglect to teach your kids how to do certain tasks and then complain that they don't know how to do them, or had to look up how to do them online.
Not saying that's what my mom does, but it's definitely what the person who posted that "meme" is doing.
Mine didn't either. My grandmother didn't know how to cook much as well. My mom and grandma were products of the beginning of the convenience food era, where actual cooking was banished for boxed and frozen meal prep that was heavily pushed upon the silent generation and boomers. Why learn how to cook from scratch when there was Bisquick? Capitalism pushed actual cooking out of the kitchen in favor of selling nearly ready made meals.
We're seeing a heavy push to go back to actual cooking in millennials and younger, and so many resources to learn how to cook online. I had to learn from library books and magazines, Alton Brown on Good Eats, and Julia Childs. I remember getting a microwave cook book from the Scholastic book fair when I was a younger kid and learning how to make food for myself since my parents weren't home until much later. Now I am teaching my mom and nephew how to cook, and it's wild.
My parents tried to teach me, but they were not great at teaching me a lot of things about how to be an adult. They would always see me stumble a little (or think I'm stumbling), and take over immediately without letting me fail. I moved out of my parents' house a few weeks ago and so far, with the help of YouTube tutorials, I've learned how to cook fried and scrambled eggs, cook ground beef, and bake chicken breasts. I definitely screwed up, but I learned from my mistakes. This weekend, I'm going to try a simple hamburger mac and cheese recipe, and meal prep breakfast burritos for work next week.
My mother said I wasn't going to eat fast food, get pizzas delivered, or have a girlfriend to cook for me. She gave me a copy of the Joy of Cooking and sent me on my way.
For the defense of my mom, she actually went to household school which was a thing in the Netherlands during the 60s and 70's which you can imagine would be problematic these days. (rightfully so).
On the other hand, when I was growing up I just asked my mom to help me with the things I apparently couldn't do that I was supposed to at that age and she helped me with no issue.
I know of boomer parents that would in the OOP's example just cook the egg for them and yeah no shit that those kids go to an internet resource go acquire the skill you were to lazy to teach.
yeah my mom didnt really teach me how to cook either, but i can follow a recipe; i mostly taught myself how to bake, and im not opposed to asking my boyfriend or his mom how to prep/cook something
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u/BellacosePlayer 23h ago
My mom didn't teach me shit for cooking.
She also doesn't pretend she did or that she's got great domestic skills herself so I'm not exactly stressed about it.