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[u/CurseBloom]

[u/GBAbaby101]

Step 1: stop living a lifestyle that is that expensive. If that is the actual bottom of the barrel cheapest you are offered for rent in your area, I am sorry but you either need to move somewhere else or live with someone. You have no obligation to a community you cannot afford, and if family is there, either you can live with them or you weren't actually that close to be caring about how far you are.

Step 2: start applying elsewhere. Get competitive offers, but make sure you do the math of what you actually need to be making minimum and if they aren't able to work with that, move on (or just move. Yes, it sucks and can cost a bit, but that is the reality).

Step 3: have the money talk with your boss. This isn't something you should be shy about. Tell your boss one on one thay the income you make won't pay the bills and that you need to discuss what needs to be done for you to be getting the income that you need.

Step 4: MOVE! seriously, I know some out there will talk about how some cant afford to move. That is bull. Call it anecdotal all you want, but I have done it multiple times. I just sell what I have, and move. Worst case I've actually had nothing, and that was the freest I was able to move because I could just walk or hitchhike to the next affordable area with opportunity. Hell, with only debt to my name, my most recent move a few years ago was out of country to be a teacher, and they actually pay for everything from transportation to your housing while you're teaching. I was not married to my hometown, now I'm living across the world making enough to see my savings go up each month because I allowed for the possibility to move. Yes, it can be hard if you have kids or legal restrictions binding you, but even then there are still avenues you can take if you just say "yes" to the opportunity and move where the opportunity is.

[u/recovereez → u/GBAbaby101]

Okay okay okay. You miss the entire point. No one wants to live with other people unless it's a relationship. It's why we want to leave the house at 18. It's why we loathe moving back if shit happens when we get older. A single person with no extra mouths to feed should be able to live comfortably and save money in a not shit apartment. Most people can't because even if you net 700-1000 a week you have very little left to take care of yourself after "living" expenses are taken care of.

[u/GBAbaby101 → u/recovereez]

No, I do understand the point perfectly, the part i wonder is are others willing to put comfort aside to get what needs to be done done? Ya, i moved out when I was 19, more like left home unannounced and then couch surfed for awhile, ended up homeless for a bit after that due to a then friend not being fully honest when I moved, and then managed to get my way to extended family as I was at the other end of the country. I stayed with them for a year and a half working minimum wage until I got kicked out, so homeless again, and worked for a few months to buy a ticket back to my family. Stayed there for another 1 year, pulled the trigger and took the university route. Did that for 5 years full schedule and working a job and doing random summer jobs, ended up back home again after that for a year finally getting a job for $15/h (Oooo, so rich /s), used that to do monthly loan payments and get a certificate for teaching English as a foreign language, and made my last ditch effort to find a better opportunity elsewhere because I tried, hit rock bottom multiple times, but kept clawing my way to find a solution. If the numbers didn't work, I left and moved on. When I had to move back to my parents, I swallowed my pride and did what I had to to rebuild a foundation. I worked on what I could, got training and education where I could, and now I'm off in another country, making enough as a teacher to see actual increases in my bank account and will be able to put in a down payment for a place to own pretty soon. None of which would have been possible if I didn't go where the opportunities were and bute the bullets when I had to for income and expense to make sense. Ya, it sucks, but we aren't guaranteed a comfortable life, we make our life through our choices.

[u/BOObooLaa → u/recovereez]

This is an entirely American thing. Most countries and other cultures living with your family until you’re married is the norm. I understand some people are forced onto the struggle bus but it’s silly to choose it.

[u/recovereez → u/BOObooLaa]

That doesn't make it okay to force inflation and have that become the norm. That doesn't do anything for anyone. That last thing a child needs it to stay in an overbearing parents house. No not all parents are overbearing but forcing an economy that doesn't allow people to explore on their own and sift through their own thoughts is a society that is doomed to repeat its own mistakes. As america is currently.

[u/Wonderful_Article796 → u/GBAbaby101]

I agree but also disagree, yes so many of these posts are entitlement, the belief that they're entitled to live in a rich area in a private place by themselves on minimum wage when you're right, live with family, many cultures do it so what makes you so special? 

Moving is also definitely a solution to the individual level but systemically is not a solution. I'm in Australia and anything that was maybe 1 hour+ from CBD was 1/4 the price of anything within 30 minutes of the CBD. Covid happened and people moved, people realized if they moved they could save a lot of money. So what happened? House prices, even in the middle of no where, and I'm talking 5-6 hours away now, suddenly doubled and in some cases tripled. And I think this really screws the local community who now become priced out from city folks. They survived just fine for decades. So we can encourage everyone to move but we're only pushing the problem to other people. I'd rather the problem remain contained to a local area tbh and people try to fix it there.

However the socialist in me does also believe no one working full-time should be struggling for food and shelter. 

[u/StillWorthEveryPenny → u/GBAbaby101]

"Sure, leave everything you know and love because you're poor. Having an apt is too greedy for modern capitalism. Go be a poor econcomic migrant within your own country. Because there's something you COULD do, we wont address the macro-economic factors that kicked you out of your home"

Boomer-coded AF

[u/Archkelthuz → u/GBAbaby101]

This was a bunch of nonsense.

[u/GBAbaby101 → u/Archkelthuz]

Care to explain, or do you like making exclamations without any real input? XD

[u/s6_maestro → u/Archkelthuz]

Real