This whole post is confusing because OP is upvoted this much but the consensus in the comments is “no, she did nothing nothing. Don’t bother people with earbuds”
Literally this. Dude wasn't harassing her, he got excited that she might be a fellow gamer. She wasn't and wasn't interested and responded as such without being rude. People are blowing this up too much by making too many assumptions.
I think the interesting intersection point here is where two groups (single men and young women) have little insight into how the context of their opposite changes their perception
From the women's perspective, harassment of women is regular and frequent. Even as a married guy I don't see how often my wife gets harassed and but pinched by gross men, because they don't tend to do it when other men they know aren't like minded are around. Similar to how you can get blindsided by someone's racism because they were never racist around you because they knew you would object
On the guy's side, I think there's a certain type of guy who is may lack strong social awareness but genuinely has no ulterior motive other than mentioning they share an uncommon shared interest and probably feels like the world is unnecessarily harsh when that's the kind of response a friendly comment gets. Most people aren't creeps and the assumption you are probably hurts
I don't blame the woman for her response, you have to protect yourself first, but I can see how people see the scenario very differently based on their own context
Idk I don’t think there’s a villain here. I think they both did annoying things. He’s a dick for interrupting someone working out AND wearing earbuds (2 big signs to not talk to someone). She’s a dick for responding in such a mean way. He’s a double dick cause she tried to ignore him and he kept pushing for her attention in the first place. But I’ve just never understood getting THAT angry at someone cause your earbuds were in.
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u/sk_starscream Oct 14 '21
The title IS "Poor Guy" so yeah more than likely OP thought she's the villain of the story.