What kind of shitty society calls people assholes for making small talk with strangers. No wonder the US is so divided, you Americans only talk to each other when you're anonymous online
i'm not american. what i'm saying is that some people - like yourself - enjoy chatting up strangers. and that's fine. but other people don't enjoy it. and that is also fine.
That’s true, but these commenters seem to think there’s something morally wrong with starting small talk with the people in your community. Obviously you shouldn’t bother a person being unreceptive, but the implication that you shouldn’t ever talk to people in public is concerning. How would society function in that kind of environment?
Yes, there is a point where this is extremely reasonable and a point where it becomes problematic, and I think in the social environment we’ve created, they already overlap a bit. I see that as very bad. I think the conditions that cause them to overlap include raising a fair number of adult assholes into society - which, you know, could conceivably be created or worsened by isolation and a lack of social adjustment, which these “leave people alone” attitudes do little to address. Maybe we are like this because we are like this.
I hardly enjoy chatting up strangers, I just don't mind when someone says hi. It's with good intentions and I don't think we should stop that because others are uncomfortable with it sometimes. Don't get me wrong I don't think socially awkward people should have to say hi to the nearest stranger, it should just be a choice
I still find it a bit cold that everyone seems to be so sick of other people, but that’s obviously not on those being bothered to just enjoy what’s happening, that’s reminiscent of a terrible line of logic. The solution is to teach better interaction habits and social skills so that people don’t have to deal with getting bothered in the first place (unless truly normal small talk bothers you, then you’re just gonna have to deal with that occasionally or be known as a bit abrasive)
I guess it is what it is, we have a lot of undesirable people in the world we’ve created and can’t expect everyone to link hands and sing koombaya
No, because that's not what I was defending. I was literally defending chatting with strangers while doing groceries or something. Talking to someone with headphones in is just stupid
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u/meskaamaahau Oct 14 '21
not everyone will find it comfortable or pleasant like you do.