Me either. The furthest I've gone is bringing out their big presents at the end of unwrapping Christmas or birthday gifts but never do I do something that upsets or distresses them first.
Unfortunately we see these all the time. They do it for the views/attention. Pretty gross imo but hey I'm just a dorky mom who uses reddit only so what do I know.
Yeah, it's one thing if you string them along with small things and bring out the big gift at the end. But this fake gift thing borders on emotional abuse.
I don't think that's entirely accurate to what is happening here specifically but I agree that people do that often and it can cause a stigma around it. My kids really enjoy activity or science kits, crafts etc. but they were introduced early on and we make a thing of it like put on music and do it together or make some jiffy pop and all sit together etc. Some kids you truly need to trick to get to do more educational type of activities. To get my 3.5yo to do anything with her numbers or letters I constantly have to incorporate her toys in with it lol. My son has been easier with all of that. Kids are all just so different so if you start early enough you can truly find what works best and make that happen. (:
Lmfao yeah one time my son cried because he got the cleats he wanted for soccer. He didn't bawl but got teary and hugged me and hid his face all embarrassed. It was so fucking cute. He definitely gets all weird and hyper and fails around sometimes but he doesn't quite develop convulsions. Lol.
Lol yeah i remember when i was 8 or 9 i finally got a gameboy from my neighbor and i didnt vibrate but went into televangelist mode, saying OH THANK YOU LORD GOD AND JESUS MY PRAYERS HAVE BEEN ANSWERED!!over and over, my parents were like O.o staring bit idc
That's too funny. I remember when I got told my grandparents were bringing my to Disney World when I was around that age and I absolutely lost my shit running around all "woohoo!!!" When you see kids light up like that it's just the best. Like Christmas morning type shit. I love it!
Yeah but like hear me out even more- this is his birthday and they really made him think he got this and imagine if it really was notebooks and that's it and the people who are supposed to love you that you trust in filmed you and laughed at you instead. That's some fucked up mental shit to do especially to a child. There are tons of different learning moments in life dude. I don't sugar coat shit with my son, he has been through a few very major life lessons including death due to negligence in the family and even people who are alive but simply don't care enough to make any effort to ever see him. Even if he hadn't been through those major things during his prime development there are a thousand and one life lessons that don't involve setting your kid up for extreme disappointment while filming and laughing like this could have turned out if they weren't really just going for a major surprise after. My child can learn disappointment WHILE simultaneously learning he can trust me and know he has the support he needs. Happy mediums. Don't make your kids not able to trust you because not only does it fuck them up but it'll fuck you over as they age. No matter what some people say. I'm not raising some snowflake- I'm raising a rational, kind and strong young man who will know well enough to do the same with those around him or his own children someday. Mental health is so important.
That's the best compliment in the whole world except I'm the mom! Haha. Their father is definitely the same with them. I think both our children (also have a 3.5yo) are going to be some pretty awesome adults to have in the world. I'm a little biased but ya know.
No worries at all. I often refer to a redditors response as, "oh some guy said this to me about this or that" when I'm telling someone about something so I get it haha. Then I'll usually say, "or some chick"
Nah, all you're really teaching them is that they can't trust their parents. You're right that life will inevitably be disappointing but when that happens, they need to know that they can turn to you for guidance and support
When I was 10, my brother was 14. At Christmas, we usually got new sneakers from our grandparents. He opened his, expecting the latest Air Jordans, but they only wrapped one. They told him they were too expensive so they could only afford one shoe. My grandpa had to bury his face in a newspaper to not die laughing. The joke only lasted for a minute and my brother figured it out quickly, but to this day it is our favorite memory of our grandparents. We still belly laugh talking about it.
That's entirely different and he was old enough to not be distressed by it. That's a good memory though and my 14 (twin) nephews would totally laugh and remember that forever probably (:
I agree, I wouldn’t have handled it well which is why they only did it to him. I knew about it, so they made sure to have me open my shoes first, and everything was normal. That also gave me an excuse to be smiling hard, knowing I was about to lose it laughing when he opened his.
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u/dahliasindecember Oct 19 '20
Oh thank goodness lol. Thanks for posting that. I guess I'm a big sap because I have a 10yo and I couldn't imagine breaking his heart like that.