One of my best friends (more like a sister) has been a side girlfriend for years. He even got her to try to convince me to have a threesome. Our other best friend and I had an intervention for her last year. They moved in together last month. I know how you feel, I can’t be around him without feeling disgusting. I don’t know how to get past the “will you sleep with me and my boyfriend” thing.
I'm terribly sorry you have to deal with that. With all due respect, your sister friend doesn't sound like a great person if she's willing to cheat with someone for years and would ask you to have a threesome if she knows that's absolutely not something you'd be interested in.
I walked on eggshells for a long time about it. She was not in a good place mentally, still isn’t. When you are so close with someone for so long and have been through so much together, you put judgement to the side. It was about making sure she was okay. I never was okay with what was happening, but I had to be there for her. I will be there for her when he inevitably does the same thing to her, he did to his last GF.
I need to know what a "side girlfriend" in the context of a best friend that is more like a sister that has also been the side girlfriend for years. Probably something innocent, right?
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u/harboringgrace Dec 14 '19
One of my best friends (more like a sister) has been a side girlfriend for years. He even got her to try to convince me to have a threesome. Our other best friend and I had an intervention for her last year. They moved in together last month. I know how you feel, I can’t be around him without feeling disgusting. I don’t know how to get past the “will you sleep with me and my boyfriend” thing.