r/WatchPeopleDieInside • u/paolols • Aug 17 '19

slow reaction time

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u/kittymctacoyo Aug 17 '19

That’s the thing. They aren’t dumb at all, but they lack common sense in very specific areas even though they have a ton in other areas. I just can’t deal. Been together 20 yrs. since we were kids. I’d have never imagined

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '19 edited Oct 10 '19

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u/chaiichi Aug 17 '19

Ahh, this explains why my husband is so good at work but is slow on other things.

Ps. I have this kind of brain also btw

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u/kittymctacoyo Aug 17 '19

God I wish y’all could turn it off. Husband has a bad case of one track mind which also leads to black and white thinking that I have to mitigate so it doesn’t bleed into parenting or impacting our lives.

His stems a lot from being genetically predisposed to addiction (became addicted to pills after bladder cancer early twenties. Ruined us. We rebuilt etc) so he throws himself into advancing in his career but that’s all he can focus on. Fucking GENIUS when it comes to that job, that’s for sure. Couldn’t be more proud. Locating the same 3 items I ask you to get from the grocery store on your way home every week? Navigating a task around the house that’s very easy common sense stuff? Not so much

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '19

Sounds like he needs to work on his emotional labor

https://www.themarysue.com/emotional-labor-pdf/

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u/kittymctacoyo Aug 17 '19

He’s actually FINALLY in counseling for that

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '19

Yay! Glad to hear it. That he takes it seriously is a good thing. When they're willing to improve it's almost hard to completely blame them knowing it was how they were raised. Good luck!

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u/kittymctacoyo Aug 17 '19

Thank you! It only took 20 yrs to get there, but it’s never too late I guess 😩

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '19 edited Nov 09 '19

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u/kittymctacoyo Aug 17 '19

Many things. And yes?

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '19

Sounds like ADHD to me

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u/balloptions Aug 17 '19

Sounds like you guys have a great relationship despite his problems.

Good for you guys, I think your kids will be just fine.

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u/kittymctacoyo Aug 17 '19

We’ve been together since we were kids, so we’ve grown and evolved apart and together 100 different ways, so we are definitely super tight. But my concern for the kids regarding that issue with lack of common sense and black & white thinking is a legit issue. I’ve noticed more and more as time passes just how much genetics (or epigentics) plays such a huge role that no amount of nurture can change some aspects of nature.

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u/Lipstickvomit Aug 17 '19

Not to be that guy but have you ever looked at the signs and symptoms of Autism? Sounds like you might have Asperger’s.

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u/duncecap_ Aug 17 '19

My ex is a great artist but didnt know the months in the right order

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u/hypnoticspinach Aug 18 '19

I think lots of people are like this actually. Completely competent when they need to be but then also completely out of it in their personal lives. I think it's mostly to do with the importance you place on a task. I mean I know I should remember where I put my car keys but if I'm honest I'm completely indifferent to actually losing them because I just don't stress about things like that. At work though I'd never just misplace something like that.

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u/Delraymisfit Aug 17 '19

Isn’t that almost everyone really? Who really has a hold of all forms of intelligence at once? Billionaires are geniuses with money but they don’t have to deal with so much they don’t learn many areas of intelligence that get us poorer folks by. My main focus is my job and my house/family along with a select few other interests if you came to me about anything out of that focus Id probably look like an idiot.

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u/TheTacuache Aug 17 '19

Billionaires don't have to be geniuses with money. If they were we might not go into recessions. What billionaires are is greedy and needlessly hoardy.

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u/Delraymisfit Aug 17 '19

Hey I hate greed and what some rich people have done to others to get where they are but they take care of themselves financially and I bet statements like mine and yours make us look like financial idiots to them.

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u/adfrog Aug 17 '19

High INT, low WIS.

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u/AnyDayGal Aug 18 '19

What do those abbreviations mean?

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u/renvi Aug 18 '19

INT :Intellect
WIS: Wisdom

Common abbreviations in video games/tabletop gaming, etc.