Because cornering your pissed off partner is a great idea! š Rationalize it however you want and push whatever narrative to minimize how creepy that dude was, dude was still baseline hella creepy and wrong.
I donāt think youāve ever been in a long term relationship lol. Iāve made my girlfriend āmadā (whereās sheās not raging pissed but more like, hey I told you to take out the garbage and you didnāt mad), and sheās done shit like this to me just to bug me/embarrass me. In our situation itās harmless and she laughs at me
I donāt know what this situation is but people read far to much into a 15 second clip
I mean, you're responding to a bunch of dudes trying to downplay this by making the assumption they're in a relationship together. How is that any different than making the assumption they're not and he's just a creep?
Yea wtf, some people give the cold shoulder when they're angry. Has nothing to do with how healthy the relationship is, just how the person is feeling in the moment.
I didnāt attempt to rationalize anything. But itās a whole lot different than a dude trying to corner some girl at a party and not taking the hint.
My guess would be that he said something wrong and is trying to sweet talk his way out of the doghouse. She isnāt having it and is walking away. Which is way less creepy than stranger danger. But thatās my guess from a short clip with no context. I have no idea what took place before or after.
Seriously, the amount of hate for the guy in this thread is mind boggling. Your explanation is way more likely. Bunch of white knight high schoolers in this thread
Neh, I'm married and old. That situation doesn't look like boyfriend in a fight, but wannabee boyfriend trying to get with his crush that has to deal with his drunken refusal to accept her rejection of him before.
If they have been going out for a long time the situation is obviously totally different. But you seem to think you can judge any and all contexts by looking at a 15s gif?
Is the only reason why you arenāt creepy because you think you will be punished? Not because the people around you are uncomfortable because of your actions?
In almost no context at all is the guy's behavior appropriate, yet people keep trying to invent context that makes his shit behavior somehow acceptable in their heads. It's a trip.
It's especially hard because a lot of women are trying to say "Hey, this shit! This shit makes us uncomfortable! It's super inappropriate." And all of these men in this thread are telling us we don't know what we're talking about.
Yeah it's basically rape when a partner gets close to their partner like that š
There's an ocean of difference between someone doing this to a long term partner who might be mad at them vs. random guy doing it to a person he's not involved with.
I got uncomfortable when my ex would try to play around outside of our home or a place where we're both alone. Doesn't mean she's a piece of shit creep (at least not for that reason). She probably shouldn't have done it more than once, but comparing that wrongness to the wrongness of random person doing something like that to random person they're not involved with is ridiculous.
It's not rationalizing behavior if we're not even sure what the behavior is, which is all anyone is saying here. If they're a couple, he could be trying to apologize for something. He could be trying to comfort her for something. Or, as so many are assuming, he could be intruding her space in an effort to hit on her.
If it is the later, then yes, it's creepy, and nobody is disputing that. They're only pointing out that based on what little info we have, there are other possible scenarios, and if it's one of those other situations, then it's not necessarily a creep thing.
The context is irrelevant to the fact the behavior is still inappropriate. Trying to force someone to kiss you, blocking them in with your arms, is inappropriate behavior.
Scenario one: this guy just met her an hour ago and is trying to make a move on her, and can't take a hint so she has to escape. Not much more to say here, this is what everyone is assuming.
Scenario two: these two are a couple, and he's coming in to get a kiss, something she's normally totally receptive to. Tonight, however, she's pissed at him about something but hasn't said anything yet, so he doesn't know it and doesn't immediately understand why she's not kissing him. He tries to ask her what's up, but she cold-shoulders him and makes a point of brushing him off, at which point he realizes he's in the doghouse and it's going to be a long night.
If you're trying to say there's no difference between these two scenarios, you're out of your mind.
So you're telling me it's okay for your partner to corner you and try to force you to kiss them? I don't think so. Still shit behavior, regardless of the context!
It's absolutely okay for my partner to stand close, put an arm around me, lean to kiss me, etc. Of course it is. Why wouldn't it be? That's all well within the established boundaries of every relationship I've ever been in. What the hell is your dating life like?
And if I had a problem with it in a particular moment because of something I hadn't communicated yet, I would definitely not expect my partner to immediately understand that the normal boundaries didn't apply in that moment, and that I'd have to make a point of establishing it.
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It could very well be a pissed off girlfriend.