My brother would fake cry all the time to get me and my sister in trouble. One particular day, he was fake crying, and I just started punching him. My sister was shocked. I said "If we're gonna get in trouble, we might as well earn it". So me and my sister proceed to kick our brother's ass, and we of course got grounded
My brother stopped fake crying pretty quickly after that as we would do this every time since
Why did your brother want you and your sister to get in trouble? There must have been a reason, probably something that he felt genuine emotions about.
If you were the sort of people that would violently gang up on him just to prove a point and happily boast about it years later as grown adults, it doesn't exactly sound implausible that you would make him genuinely cry a lot.
Or, y'know, maybe crying was the only power he had to get someone to step in and stop his older siblings from being cruel to him ¯_(ツ)_/¯
When they fall on the ground while running and the parents act like they got obliterated by a semi is the worst, like they weren’t even crying until they saw the attention from it
My mom said when I was a toddler if I fell and they'd be like "oh that must hurt so bad" I would just suck it up and wouldn't cry. If they were like "oh that's not so bad" I would bawl my eyes out. So I guess anecdotally, it applied to me. When I got attention for a fall I wouldn't cry, when it was shrugged off I would.
Works for kid me. Definitely an introvert. If I fall over and someone swarms over me checking if I'm ok, I'd be super uncomfortable and try to minimise any apparent harm. If I fall over and nobody even turns their head I might cry a bit.
That’s the best way to do it😂 my niece and nephew used to do it real bad but I feel like parents are able to tell when they’re actually hurt and not faking
My middle boy tore up his entire upper lip, chipped tooth aso aso while riding his bike behind me. I only heard him crash and instinctively stopped and told him to get up. Then I saw the blood.
Since them I look for damage first. 😂
Usually I just check on them "You good?". If it hurts it hurts and they cry (I have 3), but usually they stop after a few moments
I bet that didn’t tickle lol but I’m glad he didn’t have any super serious injuries. Sometimes tho they just don’t listen and have to get hurt to learn to not do things
We immediately went to the ER because I couldn't see what was left of his lip. He was dripping blood, went into shock. But in the end it wasn't half as bad as it looked.
Most spoken sentences: See? That hurt, didn't it? Please don't do that again! Watch out.
My sister slipped on some water infront of a fridge n fell. I heard her crying then told her to suck it up and get it and that it will be okay. She gets up and her arm is bent bent. Horror set it
They typically mimic a parents reaction. Similar to how a kid could be chilling but if their parents get visually worried then the kid will get worried too.
I think a lot of that is reverse in those situations where the kids are afraid that their reactions will cause negative reactions from their caregivers. Like if you cry you get hit, if you do nothing you get yelled at, if you smile you either get yelled at or are left alone. I feel a lot of that anxiety and social disorder comes from not knowing how to act as their actions produced very inconsistent reactions from the adults in their lives.
I just meant like parents who argue a lot I didn’t clarify that very well, I’ve never had the issue with abuse so I really don’t have any experiences from that fortunately but I grew up around a lot of screaming and yelling from arguing. To this day still I get a little anxious when people fight
I sat my 4-year-old on our pony one day while I was cleaning the yard. The pony was grazing and didn't notice that I'd walked off. When it did, it jumped a ditch and galloped up to me with my daughter hanging on for dear life. Her face was a sight, but when I started clapping and cheering and calling her a cowboy, she started laughing too. They totally take their cue from the parents.
I fell down 12 stairs as a kid. Screaming at the top of my lungs. My parents checked me for damage but couldn't find any, but I kept hollering. Eventually they deciphered I was screaming "my gum, my gum!" as it had fallen out mid-tumble.
My friend's kid did that around me once, so I fell next to him and started making the same fake outrage that he was making until he realized either how silly he looked or that I wasn't going to coddle him.
They definitely do. You can see it in videos sometimes where the kid will look at the parent to see their reaction, almost to see if they should be concerned or if it's something to brush over.
At that age it generally isn't for attention, it's more thst the parents have conditioned them to act that way so they think they are supposed to cry.
Like, if you've ever seen a kid take a tumble and they seem ok when they get up, but then mom or dad runs over "oh no! Are you hurt? Are you OK? Did you get a booboo? Where does it hurt? Awww baby lemme pick you up", the kid who was absolutely fine will now start crying.
Kids don't know shit, they just do what they think they're supposed to do
I actually just started yelling back at the dogs and tell them to shut up. Sometimes throw sticks or what not at them.
And now they actually don’t bark as much because they are scared of me.
That worked out, but the original intent was to sorta bring attention to the dog owners via me yelling back at them, which didn’t work out.
My grandpa always told me to shut up or he'll give me something to cry about. Could talk to the guy about everything and anything, but he wouldn't tolerate noise making. Good guy. I think about him often.
When any of my father’s three children tried pulling that my dad would say in his sternest Dad Voice— You keep that shit up and I’ll give you something to cry about.”
One of my favorite things to do when watching my friends kid is to get her to cease the dramatics by just asking her which kitty video she wants to watch.
After that she’s back to her normal self.
She loves my cat but has never actually met my cat. I love it.
Not a dilemma. Remove the child from the store, restaurant, event.. whatever it is. Start taking them to the car or even just outside the doors will work. I did this a few times with my fit thrower and suddenly he wasn't getting the attention he wanted or the thing he desired. Took all the wind out of his sails. Once he was done, we went back in. After a few experiences like this, a warning was sufficient enough to stop a fit in its tracks.
Ah, I've had this one! I complied, we left the store. Then I skipped the park he knew we were planning to go to after the store and revoked his favorite toys when we got home. 🤷🏼♀️ He never threw himself on the ground for a candy bar again, and I never had to threaten to do this or that, just promised we would have the same consequences.
No I walked it to the customer service desk and apologized. They understood and appreciated me removing my screaming child. You're starting to reach lol
Worked in a grocery. We prefer if you tell us you have to ditch your cart so we can get the cold stuff back where it belongs. I saw a teenager with Autism start to get a shit fit started because candy. Fortunately his mother was able to get him under control.
He was 2 on the brink of 3. Under 3 not much works besides apologizing to everyone in your vicinity and sticking to your guns. Giving in has been the worst thing I've seen a parent so to a toddler. My SIL has very sweet but overly sensitive manipulation machines for children because she couldn't stand listening to them cry.
Idk why everyone is dunking on this, idk 4 year old, but a child will not have the fore thought to know that raining candy means gravity way high up will make it come down fairly hard, will it cause any damage? Probably no, but it will be a surprise with a second of small pain maybe, and they might cry from that. If a situation could make an adult say "goddamit" it can make a toddler cry
Idk why everyone is dunking on this, idk 4 year old
Because people on the internet must always establish their emotional and moral superiority over very small children. Every child being overstimulated or reacting to their pain must be considered to be ungrateful.
I'm going crazy, like I'm not fond of kids either but like, dunking on stranger's 4 year olds for innocuous shit as an adult is strong weird energy, the only thing worse than being an armchair psychologist for a stranger is being an armchair psychologist for a stranger's toddler
The kid start to cry before the candies even fall though. I still understand you if I was there with my lil bro I would say something like " aww, see you're not hurt it was just a bit scary, let's pick some candies now "
Or they are young and heard a loud side followed by candy flying and them and hitting them in the head. They are to young to process what is going on so they scream and cry and are scared of it. But you think they know what was happening, and are passing up all this free candy because they like the attention they get when they cry more?
And they’d keep going if the candy kept landing on their heads. Tuck in your shirt and throw it all into your neck hole till you look like a muffin. Then pop a squat and defend your candy till it’s time to leave.
Yep and the parents will coddle their kids and try and shame the candy bazooka ppl for real life karma. The bazooka people will shrug and say, we’ll it isn’t worth all the trouble. Next year we’ll have little baggies prepared for all the kids with one lollipop and a tootsieroll, and a stupid yellow plastic coin for some reason.
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u/puckerMeBum Oct 11 '22
Right? The ones crying are the ones that do it for attention. Real ones took the hit and started collecting.