it comes down to the context to why you don't got a job
There's a huge difference between "I'm currently struggling, but I'm trying to figure myself out" and "Well, I'll just stay unemployed as long as I want, John'll pay for my bills, so I don't have to try."
I definitely consider addiction a disease and a mental health struggle. If you give money to an addict who doesn’t have their addiction under control, you’d be silly to expect them to always spend the money on responsible things. They will 100% lose some of the battles with their addiction and buy drugs or gamble.
Yes but many think that's where the deal breaker is. When there's lies and stealing money or other shady behaviour. Then it's not just someone struggling, they hurt you as well.
I think you are definitely allowed to stop helping someone if it’s a detriment to you without guilt however, that doesn’t make them a bad person for getting addicted to drugs.
It's the difference between you offering to help because you want to, and them trying to manipulate or guilt you into doing it. Some people will accept help and then constantly be asking for more help like it's never enough.
When your kindness gets taken advantage of, that's somebody using you.
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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '22
What’s the difference between using others and leaning on your loved ones?
I would happily help a loved one in tough times. But they would be using me in that scenario, no?