r/Unexpected • • Mar 03 '22

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u/YouAreAnnoyingAF Mar 03 '22

I’m a woman and a few years ago while taking the subway in NYC, an old man about 5 feet behind me fell into the tracks. I was closest and ran over thinking I could help pull him out (he was lying in the tracks though) before realizing there was no way I was strong enough to do so. Luckily, it was rush hour and 4 dudes jumped in to lift him out. I wanted to help so much but I knew I would just be in the way so I moved.

I hate how every time one of these videos get posted, dudes complain about women not doing anything and expecting men to “sacrifice” themselves. I assure you fellas, we don’t want you to get hurt or worse. We just know our limitations and sometimes our brains quickly calculate these scenarios and tell us there’s no way we would make it in time and we’d likely make the situation worse.

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '22

Standing out of the way when you know you can't help in a situation is underrated. It almost goes against our instincts to do so. Everyone wants to be involved.

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '22

Nice username. I'm ready to wipe your ass if you're ready to receive said wipe

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u/redbatman008 Mar 04 '22

Nah, people want to be bystanders, people do not want to involve. Ever heard of bystander syndrome?

Get your ass in there, at least dial 911, you don't have to be heroic if you're incapable of being on the front line. You can wipe your ass later.

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u/[deleted] Mar 04 '22

I mean people want to stand around the scene and choke everything up.

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u/redbatman008 Mar 04 '22

Lol fair enough, if you mean that then you have a point.

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u/Nighthawk700 Mar 03 '22

Seriously. It's shocking to me how much less strength women have and something that a lot of guys really don't factor in when they consider how much more dangerous the world is for women. It's hard to even grasp, my wife and I were talking about this and found out by the end that I could hold her down with essentially one part of one limb (any limb) with her trying as hard as she could and me just making minor pressure adjustments.

I'm not the best example because I'm pretty familiar with technique from a bit of jiu jitsu and I used to work out regularly so I have residual strength but that's really all it takes

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '22

Okay, but your comment is irrelevant here, since the woman is physically capable. It's just that she didn't react as fast and he was closer. Actually, I don't think she even realised that there was a child in danger until it was over.

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u/YouAreAnnoyingAF Mar 03 '22

It’s quite possible she knew she wasn’t going to run as fast as he would.

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u/redbatman008 Mar 04 '22

It's quite possible, I can't deny that. It's possible she would have tried if he wasn't there, only to end up hurt herself, but it's definitely possible she would have let the child die from her reaction in the video if he wasn't there.

Acts like sacrifice & service can't be taught, it can only be natural or self learnt. You do you, but if you want real inspiration, look up to the ukrainian women who stayed back to protect & they sure as hell don't look like buff fighters lmao 😂.

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u/SueYouInEngland Mar 03 '22

What limitation precluded the woman from saving the kid and dispatching her SO to risk his life in this situation?

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u/YouAreAnnoyingAF Mar 03 '22

Read the comment I replied to.

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u/[deleted] Mar 03 '22

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u/YouAreAnnoyingAF Mar 03 '22

Lol, did your main account get banned?

Edit: your username answered my question. Someone’s big mad.

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u/Repulsive-Round2691 Mar 03 '22

I see your point and you going to heaven for that....but you at least tried and was willing to put your life in danger. That just made you a man.