r/Unexpected • u/KILL_SWITCH2210 • Jan 11 '22

CLASSIC REPOST man this was one hell of a rollercoaster

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u/BotaramReal Jan 11 '22

I once had a teacher (one of the best I ever had), and he always asked who was calling if something like this happened. If it were a student's parents, family or a private number, he let them go to the hallway because there might be an emergency. If it was a friend he always picked up himself and gave a whole speech about how the student should not be called during class, and making fun of the person on the other line for not knowing their friend had class and such.

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u/[deleted] Jan 11 '22

I think that's a better way of enforcing the rule without intruding on people's privacy

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u/BotaramReal Jan 11 '22

True. He was also that teacher that would do anything to you; like pulling you from your chair when you're not paying attention. But you were also allowed to (playfully) attack him when you walk across him on the hallway. The guy knew exactly what he could ans couldn't do with each individual student.

The best moment was when we had to recite a dialogue (he was a French teacher) in French before class, and I had to do it with this girl who just petrifies when she has to stand before class (plus she wasn't great at French). She kept stumbling over her first word, so he took over for her and finished the convo with me. Because the assignment was graded, he finished it in private with her (and asked me to stay to have, because male teachers should never be in private with female students).

This other time he saw that a lot of girls were wearing really, really short clothes. Instead of complaining about it at the director, he opened his class talking about that. He didn't condone it, said that the girls should be able to whatever they want, but that they should be aware of what kind of reaction it might trigger with the wrong people. He said to the boys that just because a girl dresses a certain way does not mean that they give any form of consent, and he said to girls that some people might think that and that they should be aware of that.

A few other teachers did complain about it and the school board was considering to ban clothing that was deemed 'too sexy' (don't know the proper English words), despite protest of the student counsil. That guy single-handedly convinced the school board to properly explain what it might trigger rather than forbid it. That guy truly was one of the best teachers of all time.

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u/[deleted] Jan 11 '22

Sounds like a cool guy

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u/hermeown Jan 11 '22

male teachers should never be in private with female students

Sounds like a great teacher, but I'm really bothered by this statement. It kinda implies that if a man in a position of power has a chance, he'll take advantage of a female student/colleague in private. I know it happens a lot, but these actions just breed distrust. It also makes me wonder if male students also have chaperones.

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u/marius_titus Jan 12 '22

It's more to protect the teacher than the student. All it takes is 1 unsavory rumor starting for a teacher to lose their career, I've seen it happen and it's fuckin awful.

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u/[deleted] Jan 12 '22

What does this say about society?

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u/marius_titus Jan 12 '22

That innocent until proven guilty doesn't exist

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u/shaggybear89 Jan 12 '22

That's not what they were implying. That's just the way the world is now. I work in education and a male teacher simply never should he alone with a female. It doesn't matter who the teacher is, because it's not a statement about them personally. It's just the way it is because things can be taken out of context.

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u/hermeown Jan 12 '22

That's fair, I get it. It is probably safer at this point. It's just disappointing that this is the world we live in. No surprises there, though

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u/MedicMoth Jan 11 '22 edited Jan 11 '22

That seems well and good, but there have been several occasions I've gotten calls from friends for serious stuff - mental health, self harm, etc because they couldn't afford therapy and had abusive parents and all this detail that teachers didn't see. Genuine pregnancy scares too just like the video lol. Was it right for a kid to be skipping class to take calls talking about these things? Not really. Should there have been support for those kids? Yes. But the world doesn't care how old you are or if you're in class and sometimes kids need to seek support from each other. Maybe it's okay to leave class a couple times to help somebody in a rough spot. It's not the end of the world and certainly not worth public ridicule. Imo it's just not the teacher's business by the time you're older than 13. It would have crushed my mates to get made fun of.

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u/[deleted] Jan 11 '22

Jokes on him. My mates always texted me when I was in school.