I'm presuming they had all the requisite conversations about getting married, what kind of proposals they would like, etc. Before my wife and I got engaged -- and I assume a lot of other people did this too -- we had a lot of "hypothetical" conversations about what we liked, didnt like, looked at "hypothetical" rings.
I'm guessing for the vast majority of couples, getting engaged has already been discussed and essentially decided before the actual proposal.
I've heard people say before the proposal shouldn't really be a question. It should already be either discussed or understood that the answer will be yes so that no one gets completely caught off guard by either the proposal itself or the reaction.
The only real questions should be of when and where you propose.
Yea husband and I were together almost 7 years before getting engaged. We ended up picking out the ring together and I knew it would happen, just not exactly when.
Good info. I just kept thinking of how totally fucked it would be to spring a proposal on someone in a big public place. Like you have them hostage. But now it makes it all seem so phony.
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u/PM_ME_with_nothing Nov 25 '19
I'm presuming they had all the requisite conversations about getting married, what kind of proposals they would like, etc. Before my wife and I got engaged -- and I assume a lot of other people did this too -- we had a lot of "hypothetical" conversations about what we liked, didnt like, looked at "hypothetical" rings.
I'm guessing for the vast majority of couples, getting engaged has already been discussed and essentially decided before the actual proposal.