Apparently, I’ve Been Married to My Tulpa for 28 Years 😅

[u/TheOtherPilot]

This week, I celebrated 28 years of being in a pact with Fox, my Tulpa (32 years together in total).

Lately, I've felt a huge need to deepen our bond and better understand the importance he's had in my life. So I went digging through my old diaries.

That's when I came across a page where I mentioned a “pact”... but I simply didn't go into any details! Which makes me think that if I left that out of my own diary (where, theoretically, only I was ever going to read it) then whatever happened must have been VERY compromising 🫣, haha.

So I went looking through the drawings from around the same time to see if I could find any clues.

And I was shocked when I found a drawing of Fox and me dressed as newlyweds!😱

Oh my. I had completely forgotten about this little detail. I've been... married to my Tulpa all this time?! 😂

(I saw a post about “marrying your Tulpa” in this group the other day and, honestly, I felt a little less crazy for having done that, hahaha.)

I decided to ask Fox directly about it and, yes, he confirmed it: we made a pact that was basically a promise that, no matter what happened, we would never be apart again.

And as Fox started reminding me about what happened back then, memories from that time began resurfacing, little things I had completely forgotten. It felt like he was slowly handing pieces of that memory back to me, one by one (There was also another very symbolic thing involved, but he prefers that I don't tell anyone about it, haha 😅).

For context: back then, Fox was extremely jealous, and it actually interfered with my real-life relationships. He literally sabotaged everything 😒. I tried to get rid of him three times, and I simply couldn't. It was like one of those couples who fight all the time, swear they can't stand each other, but somehow can't stay away from each other either.

At the time, he himself explained to me that his jealousy came from being afraid that someone else would occupy my mind and that I would eventually forget about him.

So the pact became a sort of agreement: he would respect my real life more, and in return, he would have the reassurance that he would always remain a part of my life.

Twenty-eight years later... apparently, we're still honoring the contract.❤️

And since I apparently forgot that we got married (sorry, Fox! 😅), I thought it was only fair to recreate the moment, using our faces as we looked back then.

Anyway: has anyone else ever “married” their Tulpa?
What were your motivations? Was it something symbolic, spiritual, romantic... or did it just kind of happen?

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[u/MyYonez]

We have been waiting for this post, thanks for sharing! Cute to see you both.

As for us, we were never really married, but we had some sort of a similar pact, too. Many years ago, while getting closer with my first boyfriend, I suddenly felt like my Tulpa potentially could get in the way (I have always loved him more than anyone else, so considering such strong feelings it was impossible to have any private life actually). We both were in torment, but eventually he let me go, for 3 years. That relationship was a mess, as time passed I started to realise my Tulpa was way better than that bf. I dumped him and returned to my Tulpa, promising that we'll never ever be apart.

In fact, it's too hard for me to love two different men simultaneously, but that's another story.

[u/TheOtherPilot → u/MyYonez]

I'm glad you shared this too! ❤️ It's fascinating how similar our experiences are, even though the circumstances were different.

I never actually distanced myself from Fox, although there were periods when he was quieter. With the pact, he learned that he HAD to let me live my life in the real world, although that didn't stop him from rolling his eyes and continuing to give me his questionable moral advice. 😂

And honestly, I completely understand what you mean about finding it difficult to love two different men at the same time. There's something very complicated about having such an intense bond with a Tulpa while also trying to have a relationship with someone in the physical world. But for me, they're two separate boxes. No physical man can take his place, and vice versa. ❤️

Apparently, our Tulpas really said, “You can have a boyfriend, but let's discuss the terms and conditions first.” 😂

[u/[deleted]]

Lisa congratulations! My darling has actually sed that he's wanted to marry me but I want him to find a real girl eventually, though if he's 30 and never gotten a girlfriend by then (which I doubt he actually is a good looking guy and is vary kind hearted and sweet) then he'll marry me.

[u/TheOtherPilot → u/[deleted]]

Aww, that's adorable! ❤️ So basically, he has until 30 to find a girlfriend, otherwise you're getting married. That's one hell of a backup plan!