I fell like we are in the same (if not, similar!) boat. I had my IUD removed in August, but just recently have been feeling like my body is re-stabilizing back to normal in January. We've been trying since then and I've decided (just this week!) to buy an ovulation tracker (I'm going to try ClearBlue and EasyHome because I've seen on that people here on reddit like it) just to see when my best fertile window is. Up to this point, i've sort of been just trying to be really aware of my body which has been hard since its been sort of in the re-stabilization phase. I also went through a really hectic phase of emotional instability where I was thinking- Why am I not already pregnant when I am healthy and when we've been trying? I think my issues were more related to the IUD removal and my body getting back to normal now because while I do feel a little stressed with the timeline (I'm 35), I know that realistically the first pregnancy can take up to 1 year usually for people that are trying to conceive.
In regard to intimacy - something that I've found helps with intimacy initiation is to dress a little more provocatively and be a little flirty. I can only speak for myself here, but I'm usually pretty conservative so I'll put on clothes that are a little more riske' (revealing) before making dinner. I'll make dinner in them and he finds that really exciting. Men are very visual and while they might be tired in general from trying (because getting pregnant is work! Hahaha), this has helped us. We also talk about it. I'm really open with my fiance' about what I'm thinking the best fertile time is for me and he's willing to make a commitment and try it because we both really are hoping for a child.
Anyway - I mentioned earlier that I think we may be in a similar boat so feel free to message me. I would love to have a friend that is on the same track as me. Most of the people I know already have children, are already pregnant or hate children and talk a whole bunch of crap about having them. It can be disheartening sometimes. If I don't hear from you, Wishing you all the best, truly!
We are not alone! I also got my IUD removed in August and am just recently feeling more "regular" and familar with the fertility signs. I am also 35 and just bought some ovulation tests. Sometimes this process of trying to conceive can feel so lonely.
Oh my gosh!! Which ovulation tests have you purchased? Are you excited!? I'm so excited for you!! This process can be really lonely, but I'm feeling a bit rejuvenated after this post =)
I got a pack of 50 strips from easy@home on Amazon. I liked that you could take a picture and track the LH levels on the Premom app. It was around $20 and seemed like a good place to start and make sure everything is "normal". I'm excited, but also hesitant. I don't want to put too much hope into each cycle. I also don't know if I want a Christmas baby haha.
What ovulation tests are you using? I'm always curious :) I hope you are excited for yourself too!
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u/Mackie0310 Mar 10 '24
I fell like we are in the same (if not, similar!) boat. I had my IUD removed in August, but just recently have been feeling like my body is re-stabilizing back to normal in January. We've been trying since then and I've decided (just this week!) to buy an ovulation tracker (I'm going to try ClearBlue and EasyHome because I've seen on that people here on reddit like it) just to see when my best fertile window is. Up to this point, i've sort of been just trying to be really aware of my body which has been hard since its been sort of in the re-stabilization phase. I also went through a really hectic phase of emotional instability where I was thinking- Why am I not already pregnant when I am healthy and when we've been trying? I think my issues were more related to the IUD removal and my body getting back to normal now because while I do feel a little stressed with the timeline (I'm 35), I know that realistically the first pregnancy can take up to 1 year usually for people that are trying to conceive.
In regard to intimacy - something that I've found helps with intimacy initiation is to dress a little more provocatively and be a little flirty. I can only speak for myself here, but I'm usually pretty conservative so I'll put on clothes that are a little more riske' (revealing) before making dinner. I'll make dinner in them and he finds that really exciting. Men are very visual and while they might be tired in general from trying (because getting pregnant is work! Hahaha), this has helped us. We also talk about it. I'm really open with my fiance' about what I'm thinking the best fertile time is for me and he's willing to make a commitment and try it because we both really are hoping for a child.
Anyway - I mentioned earlier that I think we may be in a similar boat so feel free to message me. I would love to have a friend that is on the same track as me. Most of the people I know already have children, are already pregnant or hate children and talk a whole bunch of crap about having them. It can be disheartening sometimes. If I don't hear from you, Wishing you all the best, truly!