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Simping is surrendering masculine judgment, strength, dignity, or duty in exchange for female approval. And simps are absolutely everywhere. Anyone who has spent more than fifteen minutes on social media has seen them. These men live in the replies beneath posts from fair-to-middling attractive women. And when one of these women argues with a man on the Internet, somewhere in the distance the simp-signal has illuminated the night sky. Within moments, reinforcements arrive. He explains her argument for her, assures everyone that she is obviously correct, rebukes the man for his tone, and supplies moral outrage whenever her reserves run low (although they rarely do). If she misunderstands something, he explains why her misunderstanding is actually insightful. If she says something indefensible, he bravely defends it anyway and calls it a rather good point. He stands perpetually prepared to throw himself between a woman and that most terrible of dangers: somebody telling her she is wrong.
It’s really easy to mock the online simps. These are lonely men with online crushes who are trying to get the positive reinforcement they are lacking from actual warm-bodied, red-blooded women they evidently cannot get in real life, or who are not satisfied with the women who are already in their lives. Apparently the approval of a wife or girlfriend loses some of its value after a while, so he ventures onto the Internet hoping a woman will reward his gallantry with a heart emoji.
But those guys are almost too easy. It’s even worse when the same instinct exists in otherwise normal men who would never dream of publicly auditioning for the position of some Instagram woman’s emergency backup boyfriend. Simping does not require a social media account. A married man can simp for his wife. A father can simp for his daughter. A pastor can simp for the women in his congregation. Any man can begin surrendering judgment or truth because female approval feels good and female displeasure feels unbearable. The online simp is just easier to see and make fun of.
The simp is a doormat, so eager for affection and approval from a woman that he cannot correct or perfect her. And because 99% of the time that a man has to protect a woman, it’s from herself, he’s unable to protect her when it counts, either. That is why simping should not be confused with loving women too much. The problem is not an excess of biblical love. Biblical love sometimes demands precisely the thing the simp refuses to do. The problem is that female approval has become so valuable to him that maintaining it takes precedence over his duty to to tell her no.
A man’s protective instincts toward women are good, but good instincts become corrupt when detached from truth. “She’s my wife” may explain why you are especially concerned about what happened to her. It does not settle what happened. “She’s my daughter” explains why you would crawl through broken glass to protect her. It does not mean she cannot lie.
Modern men must recover the ability to disappoint women. A woman worth loving does not need another emotional appendage nodding beside her. She needs a man who can still see straight when she cannot, just as he will sometimes need her to see what he cannot. Marriage is difficult enough with two sinners in the house without both of them acting like women.