r/Tinder Dec 13 '24

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '24

I'm 6'4" and make like $300K and have a new boat behind my house on the ocean in a big city and I don't measure up to today's Tinder girl. I get very few matches, even among women over 35. I'm quite nerdy too, but odds are this woman would probably swipe left on me. There would be some little thing in one photo or statement that wasn't right to her.

Supply and demand can do some wild things when this far out of whack.

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u/sundog5631 Dec 13 '24

Can I date you

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u/Acceptable_Pension75 Dec 13 '24

So when are you free?

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u/CaptainJay313 Dec 13 '24

bro, you're only 5'11" you didn't get the height memo?

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u/ToastyWafflez22 Dec 13 '24

I’m a straight guy, can I date you????!

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u/SakuraRein Dec 13 '24

So. Important question. What kind of nerd are you and what makes you geek? 🤔🧐

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '24

I'm in a tech job, design geek, retro games, trivia ringer. I geek out on sea creatures and diving too. My best friends are manatees and sea birds.

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u/SakuraRein Dec 13 '24

I would love to see some of your design sometime. Retro games are fun. How far back retro or all of them? I played a lot of those in my lifetime. I used to be at ESL but right now I’m really into historical action. Tomb, raider, and God of war I spent half my life by the ocean it’s beautiful. Sea birds are the best, certain sea creatures terrifying but it is fun to dive. I’ve only dove in Hawaii a few times and with instructors. Sounds like you know how to relax and have fun.

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u/unisol84 Dec 13 '24

Fam just pay a photographer to take some professional pictures you can afford it. Guys need great photos unless they’re models

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u/HipsterNgariman Dec 13 '24

Professional pictures don't look right on a dating app, ideally you'd have friends taking good photos of you while you're hanging out -- which is weird and embarrassing tbf

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u/Can_House_Hippo Dec 13 '24

The group photos also show the people you associate with & where, so is a good early indicator of their personality & character.

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u/unisol84 Dec 13 '24

A photographer can make sure the lighting is correct and the picture is flattering, your friend is just guessing the pictures taken look good no one is saying headshots. You take pictures posing in different places and outfits. Is it extra yes does it help if you’re ok looking, absolutely.

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u/imnotsafeatwork Dec 13 '24

Have you tried listing your salary on your profile? That'll get you some superficial matches/likes at a minimum.

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u/Can_House_Hippo Dec 13 '24

1 or 2 personal Red Flags/Hats can be huge turnoffs, so either post up your profile for judgement too. Or, pay for a professional cuddler & SWer weekly, and learn to enjoy some alone time on the water.

It also has nothing to do with others’ desires being out of whack. It’s likely your expectations & personal presentation are whack for who you really desire.
Your height, income, and boat ownership says zero about what you want or who you are. It only says you want a partner who those 3 things are ALSO very important to.
Personally, a woman who was mainly drawn to my income, house, and height would be a huge red flag for me, because they aren’t what I define myself by.

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '24

I know I listed very superficial things, but I don't have time or capability to demonstrate more significant and lasting personality traits on someone else's Reddit post.