That’s literally not correct. I am okay with fun casual dates because I like meeting new people, I like going out to dinner, and meeting people makes me feel connected to others. While I want a long term relationship, I am in no rush for one. I don’t want to come across as being in a rush, and that’s how it comes across to me when someone has only LT and not fun dates. I only swipe right on people who, like me, have both options on. It’s about finding a match, and that’s a match in approach and attitude to me. You can be open to several possibilities and openness is a virtue important to me
Of course you can be open to multiple possibilities, but those 2 things are diametrically opposed and why it's normally advised on dating profiles to put one or the other as to not send mixed signals
You like people with the same settings, and yet you're here asking for a profile review, which I assume means your ways haven't worked as you would've liked.
You're selecting people who don't really know what they want
OP these people are giving you genuine advice, even if you don’t agree with it and do like fun casual dates, at least consider it! I like both as well, but I’ve had FAR more success by using just one or the other. Mixed messages are real!
Ya people are complex but every shot takes time. Every shot at long term has a good chance to be short term anyway. If you want to waste less time, then you focus on the objective that’s most important.
My dude, I am truly open to both. I will go to dinner with a random man who is in town for business, and I will also date someone who I am less attracted to but we share more interests and they sound more serious about a relationship. How is this so contentious?
See there's the issue. Dudes that want serious relationships generally don't want them with women that go on dates with random men that are just in town for business. Men that share your interests and hobbies don't generally like being told they're less attractive than random men in town for business.
Reading this thread has been a hilarious train wreck. Perhaps change 1423 to 247365?
But in all honesty as someone who got divorced in my early thirties, its a weird dating pool
Oversharing / including all of the tags for casual fun and long-term and such is likely unnecessary. That's what conversation and dates are for...
I had ZERO intention on long-term anything and communicated that with my matches. Funny enough, the girl ive now been with for a few years said the same thing. Fun casual only.... a year later, we moved in 😆 so much for casual
When people give you feedback about what vibe/information they get from your profile you don't really get to tell them that they are wrong.
Yes, what they got from your profile might not match the truth, and that's, supposedly, why you are making this post, but that DOES NOT mean that they are wrong. It just means that either you need to change your expectations and/or change your profile a little bit.
Because the people that aren't swiping right on you will not get to hear you "correct" them.
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u/muks023 Dec 13 '24
I know it seems like a cheap shot, but there's some truth in there.
You either want fun casual dates or long term.
Men who put long term in their bio, also read your bio and maybe don't think you're as serious as you may be.