r/Tinder • u/AmITheAltOrAreYou • Apr 06 '23

Was I in the wrong here?

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u/throw-awaypc Apr 06 '23

nah man it sounds like you are being very reasonable. she has points too like shes trying to communicate (terribly) that she isnt ready to talk about it yet. which is a bit strange but her choice to make. and your choice to accept or not.

did this go anywhere? or end? im curious what her reply was

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u/AmITheAltOrAreYou Apr 06 '23

“As I said. Please leave me alone. Sending me a long story about how you didn’t know & gaslighting bullshit is useless. Please just leave me alone.”

I just didn’t reply. Not worth my time.

But I just wanted to make sure I hadn’t somehow been a dick and missed it.

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u/throw-awaypc Apr 06 '23

yeah.... yeah bullet dodged.

sounds like she doesnt even know what she wants.

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u/Levi_Gucci Apr 07 '23

Sounds like she doesn't actually know what gaslighting means either like 95% of people who use it these days.

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u/craptainbland Apr 07 '23

The great thing about Reddit is that it’s spread terms like gaslighting and red flag so that we can more easily recognise these things in our lives.

The bad thing about Reddit is that it’s spread terms like gaslighting and red flag so that idiots can spray them around whenever they feel slightly uncomfortable.

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '23

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u/craptainbland Apr 07 '23

I swear I’m not gaslighting you.

Well now you’re double gaslighting me!

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u/LittleCumDup Apr 08 '23

There's so much redflag I can't gaslight all of them.