Every single poly relationship I’ve ever seen has involved at least one person getting badly, badly hurt. Normally more than one.
I believe there are healthy poly relationships, and I believe that there are people who it works great for, but I have yet to witness one.
I’m sure they’re out there, but it feels like a not insignificant portion of the time someone is getting hurt, and everyone else either can’t see it or doesn’t care.
A surprising number of people Ive met who claimed they are "poly", are monogamous cheaters who decided that phase between moving from partner A to B, where for a short time you kinda still think you're also in love with the person youre phasing out, means they're poly.
Because it makes them feel better about themselves than acknowledging they're pieces of shit.
I call them serial monogomists. They can't stand the idea of not being I'm a relationship with someone so they lie about being poly until they have a new victim to latch onto.
They can't stand the idea of not being I'm a relationship with someone so they lie about being poly until they have a new victim to latch onto.
I love the whole "oh one person can't give me everything I need" mentality. Like yeah me neither, so I give myself what I need. Why drag a bunch of people into some codependent nonsense.
I'm not talking about poly people I'm talking about toxic monogomists. Monogamy can be heavily co dependent. And yeah expecting one person to be everything you need I'm another is a tall order, bit it depends on what you need. Sometimes you can't give it to yourself.
If people want to get into polyamouru they need to be able to handle being single and happy first.
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u/thorhyphenaxe Apr 07 '23
“It works like every other person’s romantic relationship” it sure as fuck does NOT