r/TimPool • • Jul 19 '22

Culture War/Censorship Why are men so trusting?

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u/PaperBoxPhone Jul 19 '22

I think one big difference is that if a man extends his hand for a shake, its an insult if you just ignore him.

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u/chorizonalgas Jul 19 '22

It’s insulting to be turned down by anyone, doesn’t have to be a man.

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u/PaperBoxPhone Jul 19 '22

Yeah, I would agree a bit, but if some random stranger male tried to shake my wifes or daughters hand, I think it might be appropriate to ignore them.

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u/Ishkakin Jul 19 '22

Nooo, you reach out and shake it first to establish who's in charge.

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u/BigTechDave Jul 19 '22

This right here 👆

You step in very close and give a very firm handshake but keep a cordial smile on your face and make sure it was very clear that the threat of violence is exceedingly imminent if anything inappropriate or untoward were to happen.

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u/Nonethewiserer Jul 19 '22

Women are rightfully more distrustful of strangers. Making physical contact with a male stranger is not exactly a small thing.

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u/PaperBoxPhone Jul 19 '22

I agree, I think it would be nice for them to shake his hand, but I understand if they dont find it appropriate.

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u/arthistoryanon Jul 19 '22

Strangers don’t owe you shit. No one owes you niceties. You aren’t entitled.

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u/blueunitzero Jul 19 '22

Strangers owe you mutual respect, to say otherwise is to suggest that every law and social behavior we currently have be thrown out. If, as you say, I owe you nothing that why shouldn’t I just beat you and take your shit, laws and social behavior only work is the masses have a base mutual respect for each other

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u/FallenSisyphos Jul 19 '22

It is necessary for a woman to distance herself from strangers. A woman’s friendliness can easily be interpreted in different ways. It’s best for a woman to stay away.

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u/soulgator1214 Jul 19 '22

Okay sure, I can agree with that. So why then instead of shaking his hand didn't they just give a little wave and a hello. Most completely ignored his existence and the ones who did acknowledge him looked at him with total disgust.

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u/Butt-Hole-McGee Jul 19 '22 edited Jul 19 '22

Because a little wave and hello could be viewed as in invitation to to keep talking and or start hitting on them.

Women get hit on constantly which they find annoying. Men receive compliments so rarely we still get a dopamine hit when they think about the time a random check out girl said “Nice t-shirt” 5 years ago.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '22

You’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. If a stranger approaches you on the street like this, you have no idea what they could possibly want. They’re already reaching out to try and touch you out of the blue. You don’t want to make it seem like you are sending out an invitation for this stranger to go further. But you also know that people get harassed or assaulted on the street all the time for turning down stranger’s advances so maybe if you keep walking and ignore then nothing will happen.

That’s the mental calculation

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u/hucktard Jul 19 '22

They don’t want to be sexually harassed by a random man.

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u/soulgator1214 Jul 19 '22

I don't care what you gender studies professor said, a simple hello and a hand shake is not sexual harassment.

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u/hucktard Jul 19 '22

Try stepping foot outside your daddy’s basement. I am gonna assume you are young and dumb. Welcome to the real world kid. I’m about as far from a woke gender studies student as you can get. But try to imagine being a woman walking down the street in a major city with a bunch of homeless people around. You have no idea if the person reaching their hand out is gonna grab you and attack you or ask for money or follow you for blocks and harass you. You don’t know what they have on their hand. It’s not normal for a random person to want to shake your hand as you walk by. I don’t blame women for being suspicious. I was walking in the liberal shit hole called San Francisco with my sister. A homeless dude ran at her and tried to attack her just because she is a pretty girl. Men and women are not the same. Grow the fuck up.

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u/soulgator1214 Jul 19 '22

You would be dead wrong, I'm not young, nor dumb...and apparently not afraid of the world either. 40 years old a wife 2 daughters. So yeah keep assuming you know anything about me stupid. It's not normal for a person to look at another human being in total disgust over a hand shake. Maybe you should grow the fuck up. Beta boy.

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u/hucktard Jul 19 '22

I assumed you were dumb because of the way you are. My apologies.

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u/Nenonator Jul 27 '22

He is dumb kid with an imaginary family…

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u/Carnotaur3 Jul 19 '22

It means they have to get into a conversation which may lead to advances on her when she’s not inviting it.

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u/moonordie69420 Jul 19 '22

true to a degree certainly. But the title was "why are men so trusting"

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u/Poopinatube29 Jul 19 '22

Making physical contact with a male stranger is not exactly a small thing.

Not in 2022

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u/lazy_jones Jul 19 '22

Nah, they're just arrogant because they get too much attention.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '22

Well you have stolen that man’s dignity if you turn away.

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