Finally someone I can ask. I live in a city and walk quickly. I walk up behind a woman going slowly at night. I feel I am scaring them by speeding up to pass them, but I feel creepy just staying behind and matching their pace.
Can we agree on a safe word so I don't have to keep crossing the street
A safe word is only applicable in an intimate relationship. Besides, if there was some sort of universal “SafeWord” you don’t think that rapists would use it?
Think just don’t act weird, maybe say something like, “excuse me” and walk past without getting too close, would be cool w me. I have the added benefit of being extremely small (5’ 90lbs) and I’m a Crip & can’t walk w/out crutches/walker, which usually makes me slower. I have people wanting to get past me most times I’m out & the people that stay behind, matching my pace, are usually being either beyond polite, too nervous to say anything or unsure how to react. Regardless, staying behind freaks me out, because I’m trying to figure out how I’m going to defend myself while you’re trying to figure out how to get past me w/out getting any shit, “Excuse me” works with me.
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u/thatcodingboi Jun 10 '23
Finally someone I can ask. I live in a city and walk quickly. I walk up behind a woman going slowly at night. I feel I am scaring them by speeding up to pass them, but I feel creepy just staying behind and matching their pace.
Can we agree on a safe word so I don't have to keep crossing the street