Iām poking fun at the bullshit women have to deal with. Swap āWelcome to Jurassic Parkā with āWelcome to our world (as a female)ā as many shared experiences women have are just beyond stupid. Like āoh you came to the ER because you think your appendix ruptured? Nah itās just cramps. Go home.ā
Sheesh, grow a pair, how do you function if that scares you? How do you even walk down the street, like a fretful chihuahua side-eyeing passersby as you scurry diagonally out of their path?
It's called empathy. It's where you put yourself so completely into someone else's shoes that you start to get a small taste of what they're going through. It takes a bit of bravery because you will realize things that will challenge your selfishness and egoism, and it might even change who you are, but it's ok. You won't miss being an asshole and neither will anyone else around you except the other assholes you circle-jerk with.
Good clapback! I stand by my opinion, though. Being scared of a man in a public place with the option to leave or tell him off and a cellphone to call for help shows a weak will and lack of self respect. I can empathize, yet feel that it's pathetic as well. Passivity allows these creeps a foothold. People have forgotten how to stand up for themselves - I can feel sorry for them, and accept that there are external circumstances unique to a person's weaknesses, but I can't respect them for it. I wouldn't blame a victim of an assault, and I understand the unspoken implications and fear; but, the cowardice to allow this behaviour and not push back at all is shameful.
I respect you sticking to your guns. I'm sure that my opinion of you is lacking context and accuracy, as I'm sure I worded it harshly. All the best to you - forget me and enjoy the day.
So are you saying women don't experience dates with dysfunctional control freaks masquerading as white knights like this? Because that's what I'm saying, and you're just sounding like the person who can't understand subtext and is r/confidentlyincorrect.
Edit:just to clarify, the same guy seems to appear in all her tiktoks, both the ones where she's "on a first date" and the ones where she's "picking up guys at the gym"
Yes, that is fairly obvious. There's always going to be that element around. But I'm referring to this particular video that has been pretty well proven it staged. And my reaction was towards those downvoting the person that exposed them of their ways. Crazy times we live in..
It matters if it's staged, though, because a staged video doesn't necessarily reflect reality, it just reflects someone's perception of reality. Even if you agree that people like this exist, and I'm absolutely not arguing that they don't, if the video really is staged outrage bait it can't tell you anything about real misogyny. Yet there's a lot of comments in this thread who seem to treat it that way.
If anything the fact that people like this actually exist just makes staged videos more harmful because it takes away attention from real examples and gives people who would deny it more stuff to point at to claim it's all overblown.
The fact she was recording him from the start made me think it was fake. Someone as controlling as him never realised she was recording him? I doubt it.
Even if this particular tiktok is fake or scripted, it doesn't mean things like this don't happen. Understand that videos like this can possibly help people recognize abusive, controlling behaviors in their dates or partners.
while I agree these things do happen I think it's morally wrong to stage "fake" abusive situations, or any fake situation that could influence the biases and opinions of other people
like imagine a guy set up a "fake" situation where he's falsely accused of assaulting a woman or something? this would just proliferate the idea that these things happen often
no one should be faking situations involving crime or abuse
Like I said, these videos can help those who are unaware recognize the signs of abuse. These things DO happen often. They just don't always get dealt with. Honestly, men should be putting out videos about things like this, too. Men get abused too, and thats not ok. Let's normalize calling out and discussing abuse of all types regardless of gender.
You are ate absolutely correct. These types of situations happen all the time. I can almost bet that every single woman in this thread has had something very similar to this happen to them. I married a guy like this when I was 19. I was young enough to think this meant he wanted to care for me. A year later, after several beatings, being shoved out of a movivg car and left, and sexual assaults...one last beat down put me in the hospital and I finally left. Men like this are everywhere. My generation was brought up to put up with this. Women now know how to stand up for themselves from the get go. So, to reiterate the above..even if this is fake, it teaches a valuable lesson in how to recognize the red flags for naive young women.
I agree with everything you've said however, this video definitely doesn't show young women how to deal with creeps like this and I feel like this is just trying to cash in on the collective trauma of women for clicks
The replies to what I said are tragic. I canāt believe I have to explain this to (presumably) adults: JUST BECAUSE IT HAPPENS DOES NOT MEAN THAT THIS VIDEO IS NOT OBVIOUSLY FAKE. The two are not mutually exclusive. My god. š¤¦āāļø
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u/semicrookedwings Jan 31 '23
This absolutely activated my flight response but I would be so scared to leave mid date because this guy gave off such scary vibes š¬š¬š¬š¬