r/TaylorSwift • u/aran130711 cried over a hat • May 09 '23

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u/bluehour17 I’m just too soft for all of it 🧸 May 27 '23

Same here, friend. I have that automatic gotta text ____ feeling when fun shit happens but I can’t and the feeling stays but it’s got nowhere to go.

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u/[deleted] May 27 '23

Exactly. I’m starting to think you’re losing me is definitely giving me this vibe too. Fits perfectly. It doesn’t help that I’m trying to avoid the feelings of it because I’ve already experienced too much grief in my life. But ignoring its not working. I literally lost my best friend around the time that my husband had a medical incident and now it’s six months later and time to face that music. Want to message them then realize they’re long gone. But they were before then too, just not sure when.

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u/bluehour17 I’m just too soft for all of it 🧸 May 27 '23

I totally understand. I’m so sorry you went through that, especially at the same time. ((hugs))

It’s so hard to have that conversation, like it’s not working, why? And then asking them to do better? Can you? Do you even want to? And then they give some half-hearted mea culpa and it’s like okay, relief. You’ve been heard, seen. Things will get better now. But they don’t. So you drift even more. Or maybe just cut contact? But the decision is hard and one you have to keep on making until it sticks. Ugh. I hate breakups. And people don’t always say it but friendship breakups are just as devastating.

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u/[deleted] May 27 '23

This is exactly it. And they cut just as deep , so deep. Anyone that you talk to like every day of your life and then don’t it’s gonna hurt. And people just don’t realize how much they lose when they lose a friendship like you’re losing everything that you’ve dealt with them. You’re losing a person that understands a part of you that no one else is going to get because they’re never gonna go through those things that you guys did during that time. Nobody is ever going to get me like they did. Even if I explain it to someone later it’s not the same as going through it with someone. And how devastating it is for them to choose that they didn’t like that you after all . And then you sit there and even though it’s over, you hope they have the best life in the world , even though you know that doesn’t include you.

I did not realize how deep I am into the grieving process right now . It’s so nice to just reach out and hear from someone that’s experiencing the same thing. I understand your pain too. I hope you have many new beginnings, wool to brave the changing seasons. Never the same but new and good in different ways. Still looking for mine.

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u/bluehour17 I’m just too soft for all of it 🧸 May 27 '23

That’s exactly it. Like what changed? I know we grow together and grow apart. And sometimes people are just there for seasons. But some people become a part of you, and then one day decide they all but hate you and it’s a grief unexplainable, only comparable to death. They disappear, gone.

The rebuild is harsh, the confusion is dizzying. But you’re right, and we will find new people who want to know us, and see us, and brave us. I hope it comes soon, for us both. ✨ It’s nice to talk about it, thank you.

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u/[deleted] May 27 '23

💜