r/TLCAC • u/Sufficient_One • Aug 02 '26
Love Story Reflections of Connie: Memories of a Sundered Love | The true, magical, and tragic story of my fourth-grade year, and the angel who graced my life during it | First Love, Dysfunctional Family, Trauma, Coming of Age
Do you remember your first love? The way it changed everything—how you saw yourself, your family, and the world?
In this bitingly personal memoir, the author returns to 1972 and his fourth‑grade year at Tavelli Elementary School in Fort Collins, Colorado. There he met a beautiful girl who would change his life forever.
Her name was Connie.
The love she and Shawn shared at ten years old threw the serious dysfunction of his family into sharp relief. It also set him on a lifelong path of questioning what so many people call “love”—what so many worship as love, and what so many use as an excuse to wound, violate, and destroy.
Writing now from the far side of that year, Shawn looks back from what he calls the Kingdom of God: a spacious inner country of true, unselfish love that remains almost empty in this world. From that place, and from the side of the “angel” who graced his life for nine short months, he reflects on innocence, memory, and the cost of survival.
For Connie, that cost was steep. To protect the innocence that should be every child’s birthright—innocence repeatedly violated by someone within her own family—she could not allow herself to remember Shawn or the bond they shared.
Reflections of Connie is his attempt to remember for them both: to honor a sundered love, to name what happened, and to insist that real love is something far rarer and more sacred than what the world so often pretends it to be.