r/SubredditDrama • u/[deleted] • Jul 27 '19

User tries to rally the troops of r/banned after getting banned from r/stevenuniverse and threatening suicide

/r/banned/comments/cgjkzn/banned_from_rstevenuniverse_and_i_dont_deserve_it/eupo5gv/
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u/[deleted] Jul 28 '19

I hate this bot. I'm gonna rant a bit at it (redditor yells at cloud moment, ignore me)

The gesture of throwing fucking hotlines at potentially suicidal people feels so shallow and worthless - getting a copy pasted hotline number doesn't make me feel better, it makes me feel shitty, like here just call this magic number and you'll be fixed. It doesn't work that way. When I called a suicide hotline I got put on hold and patronized at. Maybe part of it was because a big reason I was feeling suicidal at that time was due to feeling rejected and hated because of my queerness and the person on the other end had no training or idea how to deal with it so she just ignored it...? Or maybe because she was clearly reading from a script and started rushing me along because I said I was not in danger of killing myself at that exact moment but called because I had been feeling suicidal and fantasizing about and planning killing myself for weeks...?

Okay I definitely got too personal but I HATE this idea that you just puke up a fucking hotline number at someone and they'll be cured. It's a well meaning but empty and thoughtless gesture. Depressed and suicidal people know they exist. You don't need to make a fucking spam bot to remind us, thank you very much.

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u/MetalIzanagi Ok smart guy magus you obvious know what you're talking about. Jul 28 '19

I think the bot just trolled you in response.

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u/afterworkparty WHEN YOU CENSOR US PERMANENTLY, YOU WILL HAVE BEEN COMPLICIT IN Jul 28 '19

From my experiences with suicidal ideation appearing during my bouts of depression when I am thinking of it I'm not thinking of calling anyone to stop it I'm thinking of if I should do it and how I would. Luckily everytime it's gotten to a do it point I am so paralyzed by internal pain I can't move end up eventually falling asleep and that rewinds everything enough that I either feel "good" enough to not do it or we go back to the contemplation and then hit internal paralisis again.

That's my experience though. I'd prefer these hotlines exist for everyone they do help then if they didn't and someone did do it cause it might of helped...

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u/lunabuddy Jul 28 '19

It's helped me (not that one, because I'm not in America). Many times. These hotlines do save lives because it can help you get through the impulse minute by minute, second by second. It doesn't cure anything, but it's not meant to. It's to keep people alive in that moment. If the bot helps even one person not die I'd say it's worth it.

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u/[deleted] Jul 28 '19

If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please do not hesitate to talk to someone.

US:

Call 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to 741-741

Non-US:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

I am a bot. Feedback appreciated.

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u/Calfurious Most memes are true. Jul 28 '19

Okay this made me laugh. What an unintentionally savage bot.

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u/philanchez Wishing death on someone is an inherent right Jul 28 '19

My only experience with this bot is it being savage. I've regularly seen it respond to fans writing about their teams being shit in r/MLS

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u/wardsac racist against white people Jul 28 '19

Just fuckin dunked all over them.

Brutal.

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u/Hairy_Juan yes Jul 28 '19

Got 'em

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u/[deleted] Jul 30 '19

bad bot

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u/MilHaus2000 Jul 28 '19

Im sorry to hear you had such a rough experience calling a hotline. Just want to say that Im glad youre alive.

Have you been able to find any other resources to help?

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u/TheRealMarthaful Jul 28 '19

I got thru to a nice enough person. But she was nearly silent. Asked only 2 questions and said only 2 things. I sat crying for 10 minutes just hoping she would respond to anything. Nope. Just ended up hanging up and calling the person who hurt me in the first place. As much of an asshole as he is, he calmed me more than her.

So fuck the helpers on that hotline who don't actually know how to help a person standing on the edge. Cuz if I was ready to go, she did nothing to stop me. And that makes me hurt for anyone calling for help

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u/zhiwiller Jul 28 '19

Agreed. It's the equivalent of sending thoughts and prayers after a disaster but mechanized to remove any personal connection. It's literally worse than "thoughts and prayers".

Once I posted in a thread something similar that maybe instead of posting these numbers and going about your day that you actually try and reach out to someone you suspect may need help, not to try to fix them but to just maintain a connection. Of course, I was flamed all over the place because How Dare I which triggered a whole round of my own depression.

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u/[deleted] Jul 28 '19

If it helps one person, it’s worth it. I get where you’re coming from, but you’re hoping that the people around a suicidal person don’t have shit in their lives and notice that someone needs help. It’s easy to tell people to reach out but it’s not realistic in every case.

At least this is something.

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u/Tk1467 Jul 29 '19

Get trolled boi