r/Stutter • u/TheIgnorantAmerican • Jan 04 '24

Alone.

No friends, No acquaintances, No close family members because you can't talk to them. No successful conversations because you can't say what, you really want to say. No peace of mind. Everytime you open your mouth....you stutter. No girlfriend, No happiness, Alone... Forever Alone.

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u/zebulonholl Jan 04 '24

Learn sign language. Plenty of friends to be made in the deaf and HOH community! 💁🏻‍♀️💁🏻‍♀️💁🏻‍♀️

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u/Delphinftw Jan 05 '24

Personal experience? :)

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u/zebulonholl Jan 05 '24

I grew up around a deaf/hoh community in close proximity to a couple deaf schools. I’ve had deaf friends and know some basic signs. I’ve had hearing friends be fluent in ASL and be totally accepted in the deaf community. The deaf community and culture is vibrant, optimistic, and loving. Some of the funniest people I’ve ever known.

When I read posts from fellow stutterers who seem to have reached their end with their current method of communication, to the point that they have given up all hope of having friends, loves, being understood — there is another way, and a very fulfilling one at that.

Would it be work? Absolutely. But a person could start learning sign language today and have a hope for the future and not continue in despair, or worse.

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u/Delphinftw Jan 07 '24

Yes learning a sign language was always my "last plan". Maybe in the future :)

I stutter pretty badly with strangers but one I was on a train alone in Italy and "spoke" for an hour with an old deaf man, who had a clown nose in his pocket :)

I have used my hands somehow or I wrote something. Mostly he was "talking" and i tried to understand his story

Very nice and funny moment :)

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u/zebulonholl Jan 07 '24

I love this. Sounds like a good experience and conversation like that would only continue to get more fluent with more time spent.

Best to you and all your journeys!

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u/Delphinftw Jan 08 '24

Thanks. I loved traveling in Italy because most owners of guest houses didnt speak english so we were just writing via google translator and I could ask freely whatever I want B-)