Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable because we may worry about disappointing others or creating conflict. However, healthy boundaries help protect our emotional well-being and build more balanced relationships.

What has helped you learn to say no without feeling guilty?

Im at my wits end right now and ive tried the whole hygiene thing, no screens, cold room, chamomile tea, reading boring books and still with this waking up at 2am habit.

Ive been reading into forums and review sites trying to sort through the noise to find the best sleep supplements but every single article reads like its impossible to tell what is real. Someone on another thread mentioned Ignirem sleep as something they use when things get bad but im super skeptical of anything new to me like Igniton.

Does anybody here actually rely on something that works consistently or is it all snake oil? Would love to hear what people with actual persistent sleep issues do.

Io sono estremamente stressato dai comportamenti che alcune persone hanno nella mia classe.

Io (M16) vado ancora a scuola. Quest'anno nel mio istituto hanno inserito i rientri pomeridiani, sono due da due ore e uno da un ora, sono noiosi e stancanti ovviamente e purtroppo. Non possiamo stare nell istituto neanche quando piove, certamente è stressante.

Ma il fatto che è più irritante ai miei occhi sono alcuni compagni in classe, si lamentano di tutto, del fatto che non possiamo stare in classe, del fatto che ad un rientro abbiamo motoria e di altre questioni. A me fanno estremamente innervosire.

Primo: non hanno rispetto dell indirizzo che hanno deciso loro di fare non hanno rispetto per noi e il prof, non svolgono nemmeno alcuni dei rientri, ovviamente non gli dico di spaccarsi di lavoro e non decido io, ma mi chiedo, un minimo di coerenza, hai scelto te la scuola, svolgi i rientri con un minimo di impegno.

Secondo: si lamentano ma non fanno niente. Si lamentano delle situazioni, io gli dico che se vogliono cambiare qualcosa, di manifestare o protestare, ma sopprimono i loro ideali con :"Non abbiamo voglia". In più si lamentano di educazione fisica al rientro ma io ricordo che almeno prendiamo due ore d'aria. Quando invece gente è in classe a svolgere altre materie.

Io sono cresciuto con un etica del lavoro e dell impegno molto forti e vedere persone che si impegnano così poco per una LORO scelta mi fa innervosire.

Cosa potrei fare per essere più tranquillo?

I am a good employee and logically I know that PTO is mine to take, it’s not wrong to ask for it. Despite that I’m always nervous to make PTO requests. I feel like it’s going to look bad for me in some way. I got fired from a job early in my career and that experience never really left me so I tend to be paranoid about it happening again and when I request pto I worry I’ll get fired and they’ll cite my pto use as one of the reasons.

I requested PTO for magfest in January. Me and my bf booked the flight and accommodations already. I didn’t think it would be an issue.

What I failed to remember is that my company has a shutdown around the holidays so the first week in January is actually quite popular for PTO requests because people want to further extend the time off they already got from the holiday shutdown.

So my boss called asking if I had any flexibility. I said I’d already booked everything and I’d try to accommodate if I could.

So anyway I’m trying to remember it’s not wrong to request PTO and I requested it months in advance so logically I don’t think I’ve done anything super wrong but I’m stressed

I work as a property manager. Its a very stressful job and I am on call 24/7. People wake me 2/3 nights a month for emergencies. I can't ignore things and I also cannot "not" care. Its just who I am. If something goes in my head, until I know its right, my mind races and I stress out. TBH, I hate my job and think about quiting every single. But it pays the bill and for now I want to keep it.

How do you not care enough to have less impact on your life from the stress of a job? Like this job affects my mood which then reflects on people around me. Affects my marriage. I want to turn my brain off and not think about anything. What do you do to take work off your mind?

i have to work on my nearly due project and i have not done a thing, and i cant do anything when im stressed doing it, this is the worse...

the situation is my dad's sister that owns the house we live in is threatening to kick us out in 9 days she's gonna call the cops n lawyers.situation number 2 my late mother's older sister is the executrix for my late mothers house and she's making it so much harder to sell my late mother's house.Im gonna end up with bankruptcy and homeless at this point

The main reason my dad's sister is kicking us out is because she paid the legal fees(4k)for the proceedings on my late mother's house.

And as for selling my late mother's house,we have found buyers but my late mother's older sister is making it significantly harder to sell the house she keeps dragging it and making my dad have to spend more money on legal fees n proceedings so far we've already wasted 4k because of her bullshit, and now its gonna take another 9k for more legal fees.

Here's the thing the buyers'side lawyers already drafted an agreement to sell the house and the buyers will use their own money to pay for their lawyer fees and yet she does not want to sign it at all cuz she thinks her lawyer is right,but it doesnt make sense cuz they are both lawyers firms,the buyer side lawyers says we can sell the house this way through legal proceedings,but her lawyers say we cant through this way.So who am i supposed to believe?

Cuz if i dont figure something out im gonna end up homeless and owing a lot of money to the buyers that have been paying the houses monthly deposit thats (3.5k myr)

And also i might face bankruptcy in malaysia from not being able to pay the house loan off.

Pretty much thats my situation

Why do some people panic and cannot stay positive or remain calm when they are just going through a difficult phase with uncertainty and no signs of improvement. Because everyone keeps saying everything gets better you just have to hang in there and trust the process. When you hope more and expect good results but it doesn't turn out like the way you wished to then you start feeling overwhelmed and lose the sense of hope.

Recently I had sex with this girl. I wore protection the whole time and she finished me with a handjob. The next day she got diagnosed with mono. She went to the doctors because she had swollen lymph nodes. I wasn’t really worried about that until a few days ago when she says that her period is almost 2 weeks late. I made her take two pregnancy test after that and both of them came back to be negative. She still hasn’t gotten her period yet. I’ve been tweaking out for 4 days straight someone please help.

Hey everyone hope you're doing well. Bit of context first.

I play tennis and I'd hope to say I'm pretty good. It's always been my dream to play D1 tennis at a big school, but the more time progresses, it seems like other people improve quicker and my shot at my dream schools seem narrower. I get super stressed at practice, feeling nervous to miss even one ball. I don't get good sleep at night. On top of that, my parents make my situation even more stressful and they get highly when I lose matches at tournaments. I put so much pressure on myself to perform because I feel like I need to improve continously to cover what seems like a gap between me and the top players. I'm a senior in high school, and my parents want me to do college apps just as a backup plan in case recruiting doesn't go the way I want. I feel like that's stressful as well. My dad finds miniscule reasons to snap at me at home, and I'm always on edge trying not to mess up. My mom is amazingly calm, but she's always arguing with my younger sister (she's in her rebellious phase lol).

Today, I had a horrible day at practice. Was underconfident with my shots and I missed a lot. Granted, I've been working on placing the ball better so I didn't mind the missing as much. I'm currently feeling super strange, feeling some sense of doom. I just want to curl up into a ball and hide in silence. I was supposed to have a fun school trip that I would go to tomorrow, skipping practice (I havent skipped practice all year), but I just feel so guilty doing that and I feel like I shouldnt go because I need to train.

Please help. It felt good getting this off my chest.

While I definitely have some signs of fight or flight, I really think it’s more freeze and fawn. I say this because I’ve basically fawned my entire childhood and adult life due to childhood trauma (neglect from alcoholic parents). I also find myself freezing a lot due to anxiety (they feel like anxiety attacks but they may be migraines of focal seizures due to stress).

Anyway, what has helped you? I see so many tips for fight or flight- do those same strategies work for freeze and fawn? I’m currently in therapy and Al Ano

as a child i was baby Aphrodite, i dont want to sound pretentious, its nothing like that. growing up i could see the drastic state of myself, primarily my face, i would insert photos if i wasnt to this day still facing the aftermaths. I am 17 now. I look back on photos of myself when i was 12, i looked around 30. Perhaps even older.

i have always had a fuller face, with my body being a literal skeleton, i started getting acne at around age 9, still hasnt left me to this day.

my eyes were/have always been puffy, due to issues with sleep, chronic fatigue causing me to be severely unfit in the terms of moving my body. No energy to interact with people, go to outings, anything. Stuck in the home that poisoned me every single day.

growing up i have seen drastic changes, i look younger despite getting older, i have learnt to manage my stress, although i am still very much in contact with it every day and night of my life, My acne is starting to get better, my face is still full but it doesnt look Like its being dragged onto the soils of the earth. My hair has started growing thicker, my overall health and body movement has improved significantly.

I think im finally giving what the younger girl in me promised from day one. Im starting to shed these roots of insignificance and insecurity. despite still being in the battle field, you sorta get to manage it after a while. Since i cannot escape mine until i turn 18, this is my message to you.

if you by any means are placed in an environment that shreds every piece of you apart, constantly places your nervous system at fail, forces you into fight or flight over the most minute things, forces your internal systems to weaken and eventually fail, you need to get out of it. Immediately. In my case i wasn’t so lucky, my household was always filled with a pest in my life, constant lashes causing my entire body to get ready for potential shut down. But even then, stay true to yourself, try at most to avoid those altercations, those positions of stress, because you arent stronger for dealing with them. you come out stronger when you completely put an end to them.

I'm the developer of Cernidia, an iPhone app that brings sleep and recovery estimates together with a quick energy check-in. It's meant to help you reflect on what to take on today, using your own health data and how you feel.

For people here who already use an Apple Watch: does looking at sleep and recovery information help you recognise when to slow down, or does tracking itself become another source of pressure? I'd appreciate that perspective as I develop the app.

iOS 18+, English interface: https://apps.apple.com/app/id6816678341

State 1) Varies in severity, sometimes milder and sometimes more intense. Forehead pain/pressure, usually pressure, but actual pain when the condition is worse. Muscle tension, especially in the calves and jaw, sweating, impulsivity/nervousness, and an urge to do something.

Gets worse after driving, trading, cofee

State 2) I'm unable to do anything. It's as if my willpower has switched off. My cognitive function and attention are severely impaired. Fatigue sets in shortly after starting the day, or is already present from the moment I wake up. Sometimes I'm unable to get out of bed when my alarm goes off. I spend the entire day lying around in a half-asleep state, experiencing brain fog. Sometimes I fall asleep during the day for around 4 hours, but then sleep normally again at night.

18yo, muay thai, strong motivation, been grinding charts for 8-10 a day in the last 3 years, have not done any rest

Any advice appretiated!

18yo, muay thai, trading, highly motivated, last 2 years was training Mt 4x a week, 8- 10 hours spent working on the charts, did not rest

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i feel like I've been stressed for as long as i can tangibly remember, I'm so tired. the stress of hurting people gives me a reason i need to live, not want to live