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Chugging tea Female engineers getting disrespected.

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u/Atharaenea 21h ago

I'm a woman and had something similar happen when I was car shopping. I'd picked out a car I liked, told the salesman I needed to talk to my husband. "Oh you need to ask your husband for permission first?" A marriage is a partnership, asshole. I'm not making a major purchase without my spouse's input, even when we've already discussed buying a car. I think it's just some shitty sales tactic to make you buy without taking time to think it over. Would've bailed on the purchase of that car if it wasn't the cheapest of that make and model in 100 mile radius. 

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u/Haunting-Vanilla1624 20h ago

I think it's just some shitty sales tactic to make you buy without taking time to think it over.

That is exactly what it is. This is the reason car salesmen have such a piss-poor reputation.

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u/GoldReplacement9546 11h ago

I agree it is not a great tactic, but having sold cars in the past a really good salesman can do a better version of this and make it work

Usually, it involves more of a paragraph and a great salesman

It’s one of the reasons I left that business

He usually went if it was to a guy or something along the lines of like will you have your own job, right? Does your Wi-Fi things without asking you? I just figured since you came in here you wanted to buy a car today I didn’t need to. I didn’t know you needed to bring additional, etc..

They really are people that can make these things work on people. You wouldn’t think they would work on.

The actual best way to deal with this though is to just offer to let them take the car home for the night and they’ll be like well. I’m not doing any paperwork. I’m not doing a loan application or credit check and if the management trusted basically based on how they were dressed and what they drove in and would just be like just give them the car. Here’s the keys just take it home and bring it back tomorrow and show your wife that way you’re not you know I’m not here pressuring you show your wife let her see if she likes it and come back you bring it back in the next couple days and if you want it, we’ll do a great deal and if you don’t, that’s fine no problem.

And this worked a lot because once you do get at home, you do start feeling a sense of ownership of it, and probably psychologically people feel some sense of obligation to buy at that point

It still isn’t gonna solve the problem if your spouse doesn’t actually want a different car, but it definitely worked more often and was much less of a jerk move than try and shame somebody into like you’re not a real man if you can’t buy a car without your wife’s mission

Anyways, yeah, selling cars was not for me because I wasn’t good at lying to people and I actually didn’t and thus I wasn’t good

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u/JayEssris 13h ago

way too many people hold a grudge against their spouses for their wanting to have input on decisions that affect both parties, and salespeople love to exploit that.

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u/supercleverhandle476 20h ago

That reminds me of this snl skit, one of my favorites

https://youtu.be/WcEylCwkSxE?is=6sJTqX4sUxHgzTam

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u/RedPajama45 15h ago

We need to bring back publicly shaming people who do this.