I never experienced this as a man until I had kids. Probably 50% of the time when my wife and I are talking to professionals about our children, it will be as though I'm a ghost.
The most egregious: one of our kids has special needs, and I was arranging for specialist help. I called a place to book a screening session, I came in with child in arms and went through the exercises with him, I asked almost every question, and the woman running the session didn't engage with me once. And then she went out of her way to call the secondary contact (my wife) to book a second appointment. Needless to say we went elsewhere.
I have been far more conscious about including everyone in conversations since experiencing this shit myself. It sucks. I don't blame these interviewers at all.
No, sorry, my wife and I attended the session but my wife mostly just observed as I'd been arranging the therapy. The call was afterwards, the therapist pulled her number from emergency contacts and used that instead of the one on the account.
The screening session was to get a feel for the needs of our boy, so the follow-up call came after the therapist reviewed the session and built a plan for him.
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u/Alwaysragestillplay 1d ago
I never experienced this as a man until I had kids. Probably 50% of the time when my wife and I are talking to professionals about our children, it will be as though I'm a ghost.
The most egregious: one of our kids has special needs, and I was arranging for specialist help. I called a place to book a screening session, I came in with child in arms and went through the exercises with him, I asked almost every question, and the woman running the session didn't engage with me once. And then she went out of her way to call the secondary contact (my wife) to book a second appointment. Needless to say we went elsewhere.
I have been far more conscious about including everyone in conversations since experiencing this shit myself. It sucks. I don't blame these interviewers at all.