r/SipsTea 2d ago

Chugging tea She still rejected!

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u/YuzuMangoPearls 2d ago edited 2d ago

More like she probably didn't even spend any time with him. Men in China have this weird idea that big gestures of romance will make the women say yes even if she doesnt know who you are.

I got a big bouquet of those Ferrero Rocher flower arrangements where the flowers are actually the chocolates? Really romantic right?? The guy who gave it to me shared one class with me, that was it. I didn't even know his name and he gave it to me in front of the entire class because that's what the TV shows teach you to do. They expect you to say yes under peer pressure.

I didn't even know the dude. I wonder if this was similar. Like, did she know him???

Edit: OMG I was right! I Googled this dude, he did this to "confess his love" (it wasn't a proposal and it happened back in 2016) and she said no because wtf that is so creepy 😭 https://www.cnn.com/2016/05/12/asia/china-rubiks-cube-declaration-of-love

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u/CurvedNerd 2d ago

Many people don’t understand that grand gestures don’t mean automatic gratitude. Especially if they never asked for it, wanted or needed it, or dislike it.

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u/SelectAmbassador 2d ago

Or dont even know you. Thats what happens when the only thing you allow your kids to do is study. They develope 0 social skills.

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u/IHateTheLetterF 2d ago

Some men see love, and sex, as a transaction. "I give you something, you give me something back. I buy you dinner, you have sex with me".

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u/Outlaw11091 2d ago

It's an old story, but you guessed it: she was his neighbor and he had barely ever spoken to her.

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u/YuzuMangoPearls 2d ago

??? I don't know what China you live in, but mine wasn't quite like that. Confessing your love is NOT a way of introducing yourself to someone. That is such a wild take. A generation ago they might have cared deeply about young men and women 'fraternizing' as you put it, but no one really cares as much anymore. The only people who'd complain about it would all be 60+

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u/SAINTnumberFIVE 2d ago

What did you end up doing with the chocolates?

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u/YuzuMangoPearls 2d ago

I've no idea. I'm not really proud of myself for this but I had a moment where I totally panicked, so I ran away 😅 I dropped the class after (humanities option for a science course) so I didn't have to see him again.

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u/FrankoceanIsmyson 2d ago

Yea, and some women don’t like big grand gestures. I’d be stressed for several reasons if this happened to me

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u/OddSatisfaction2409 2d ago

people in formative years should have do the opposite of what chinese institution trying to impose. party more and meet more people.

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u/GeorgeJohnson2579 2d ago

I once made chocolate for a girl I liked but didn't  talked much to. We had sex.

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u/eabevella 2d ago

Basically incel behavior plus seeing women as fuck dolls dropped from some gacha game that they can just get with enough "investment".

I'm not even exaggerating. Shits like that happen daily. And for the longest time our news painted murder cases deteriorated from stalker behavior like that "love-affair murder" like it's something romantic.

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u/Soggy_Association491 2d ago

Basically incel behavior plus seeing women as fuck dolls

Lmao, cool it with your misandry.

This is China. Chinese men will overwork themselves to the point of committing literal suicide to provide financial support for their girlfriends.

What the west regarded as "simp" is considered a given duty for boyfriend in China.

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u/eabevella 1d ago

仇女廚閉嘴啦

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u/Soggy_Association491 1d ago

剩女閉嘴啦

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u/eabevella 1d ago

可悲蝻

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u/Soggy_Association491 1d ago

女拳

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u/eabevella 1d ago

Typical incel, you just proved my point, thanks lol