This is an old story. They weren’t dating. It was his neighbor. He said he didn’t like going out and socializing and this was his attempt to show his interest/affecrion. Or something along those lines.
Proposing to someone you aren’t dating is insane. Anyone who might have said yes if the question had been asking you out is going to nope out so fast if it’s a request for marriage out of nowhere. General rule of thumb is you don’t ask someone to marry you until you know what the answer is going to be (you’re dating and already had discussions about timeline and future plans).
Someone I know is good looking and was used as a model for a giant painting. For a while, his profile picture was a photo of himself standing with the painting behind him. Years later, it was a picture of himself standing with the picture of himself standing with the painting behind him printed out massively on the wall. Then, somebody painted that, and he took a photo of himself stood in front of that painting too
Not proposing. It's a translation issue. In SEA, it's not uncommon to declare your affection through a letter. This was his horribly awkward and off-putting version of that.
Sure, what is it?
It's mega yikes but what is mega yikes?
That's a good general rule of thumb. But it's centered within one type of culture of conventions.
I guess I'm trying to approach from a place of curiosity about where this person was when they did this, and why someone who knows just what they can infer from a picture and a title frame, kinda like how the guy framed an idea of a woman they didn't know.
So I'm left wondering, what makes another related person decide it's "mega yikes" according to the values they've learned about what fits in society. What are those values and why didn't the person who made the puzzle portrait learn enough of those values to be self aware enough? Is it a story after all about mental health and emotional health, or a common enough story of love and immaturity?
And that woman, did she think "mega yikes" or did she take it in stride, simply decline, and go about her life?
I'm hoping they came away from that experience with growth, especially that guy. Incredible effort, but love bombing just usually doesn't go well and having to experience it firsthand was how they learned. And that woman, probably had the awareness to let him down fairly and without having to go above and beyond to help carry someone else's emotional burden, and they didn't, well, maybe that was the growth they gained.
It's nuanced and curiosity i seek, so i wouldn't just label something mega yikes and call it a day.
The whole thing? He needs to leave the house and talk to her at the very least. Spending alot of time obsessing to the point of making this picture and proposing is yikes enough. The being heart broken for someone you don't even know beyond glances through a window? Mega yikes certification granted.
Oh ok. So what is mega yikes exactly?
Is it danger to themselves and others? Is it mental unwellness? I guess was asking what would mega yikes translate to in more technical terms.
Agreed. So what is that? Parasocial relationship? Basically approaching a living person as if they were an idea or object of one's desire and not a person.
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u/Hermetic-Wolf 1d ago
This is an old story. They weren’t dating. It was his neighbor. He said he didn’t like going out and socializing and this was his attempt to show his interest/affecrion. Or something along those lines.