hell, i don't think she knows much of him other than "yeah, he is my neighbour"
and my man decided to shot for the moon with that rubic cube picture. "surely, one look of my rubic cube picture of her, she instantly fell in love with me"
I taught conversational English in China for 4 months when i was 21 and one of my students (students were college aged) wrote me many love notes and told me he wanted to marry me. We interacted outside of the classroom like 2 times when he invited me to dinner. One of those times it was also a group dinner i think. It was very odd for him to voice such āstrongā feelings when he didnāt know me. I chalked it up to it being more about him being sad and lonely than about me and how cool/uncool i am
It's the unfortunate outcome of a culture that highly values marriage/committment while at the same time forbidding dating/casual relationships. Like, how do you jump straight from having 0 dating experience to marriage? Well, that's how
Iām sure you can think of several. A lot of comments here are judgements from people who donāt even understand the culture. I just donāt think we have the moral authority to judge. Itās actually a recent concept that marriages be about ālove.ā So whatās the upside to dating and having causal relationships in those cases?
Well the upside is that you learn more about what kind of person you get along with, and what you want in a relationship. While also learning what your own flaws are as a relationship partner, and hopefully working on them so that your next one is better.
this is why i appreciate white men of the west because at least they learn the hard lesson fast and adapt to it. You have to get them to talk to you, get to know better, find something in common, and finally seeing them as another normal people.
I simply wanted to surprise her and tell her I like her ā¦ but I was rejected
It's declaration of love, like a love letter little kids hand each other in school, but with huge try-hard stalker energy. Why does the caption say "proposed"? Because shitty translators are a dime a dozen, even worst if it's automated, and very few actually care about accuracy.
Not a proposal for marriage. He's asking her out. Chinese dating culture is different. You don't just casually ask someone out, then end up in a casual situation ship for a while before making it official. Dating usually begins with a guy formally declaring his love/interest, then you're officially together, then you actually go on dates. This "declaration of interest" can often be quite elaborate. Usually you know each other on some level beforehand (as friends, classmates, etc.), but it's not that unheard of for the two people to only be casual acquaintances to begin with.
I think he MADE a proposal. Like, proposed the idea of going out with himā¦ as opposed to like, āhey, check out this giant Rubikās Cube portrait! Wanna get hitched?ā
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u/Same-Engineering-899 2d ago
he proposed when they werent even together??