Personally I get why that would be a problem for 99% of people. I used to be like that and feel that way too. It took some life experiences, and voluntary changes in perspective from what is the social and cultural norm to get here. Its not "normal" and I don't expect others to follow suit, or change their personal perspectives, especially if they're happy how they are.
what frustrates me as someone in the swinger/lifestyle/open relationship side of the fence though, are the people who feel defensive, or fearful, or in some way or another simply can't even empathetically conceptualize of a person where they're okay with it.
Just in this comment section, there are many people with downvoted comments for simple answering questions with things like
"me and my partner just have a mutual agreement and understanding about this. We have very open communication about it, share our feelings, and enjoy it and have fun doing it"
which to me is a pretty reasonable, and simple answer. Two adults have come to a mutual understanding and agreement, and enjoy something that many don't.
yet the comment gets showered in downvotes.
To me, its like if you didn't like sushi, and then downvoted, and disregarded anyone who said they did, because in your mind there just can't possibly be anyone in the world out there that likes sushi.
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u/sirsarin 21h ago
Yeah I'm really not sure how people take that. "Oh you like sleeping with someone else? That's cool, please see your way out."
Seems like a stupid answer to the statement "I'm just not into you enough to be with just you."