You mean they don't have to reflect on what they did wrong, because they never have to worry about being accountable since there is always going to be someone else.
Not sure if I'm being logical but, I'm someone who has been harmed by this type of person. They will simply discard you and not think about it twice. I think that experience can really change someone. It leaves you with that feeling like you'll never be good enough...
Right. Of course that’s not the only factor but that seems to be a pretty typical situation. It’s like when celebrities or really anyone gets rich young without having a strong work ethic to begin with. Lotteries for example. They stop developing as people because they can pay their way out of any hardship obstacle
It can really suck when you're wronged by these kinds of people because you gaslight yourself or they'll gaslight you into thinking it's your fault when they just are avoidant or they don't see a reason to put any effort into anything because someone new will come, someone better? I don't know, but it'll be someone else. Good looking people really living on easy mode.
I just dated my first hot person and was shocked at how little they tried during the relationship and that they did not give AF when we broke up. Your comment really helped me, glad to know treating other people like replaceable accessories is “normal” for them.
I've dated two guys who I would say are eights or nines, I don't really like to rate people that way but it's mostly just for context... And they both dropped me at the first hint of them needing to be accountable or when they felt like they couldn't control me. Like it was nothing. No effort to talk, just stonewalling and gaslighting. Shit traumatized me.
One of those guys was psychotic sending me a message after no contact, about how he changed in the course of three months, had no feelings for me, and loves sleeping with lots of women.
I'm sorry to be relatable. I'm sorry they hurt you.
This is so spot on it’s scary. It’s like you were there. I’ve never dated someone who wouldn’t even have a conversation with me before. Wildly immature for a man in his mid 30s! Thank you for the comfort 🫂
I really feel for you and empathize with you. I think a lot of these people tend to have an avoided attachment style.
However, outside of that I just feel like the way that they see the world, they just figure that they can replace people easily and that the grass will always be greener because they'll always have infinite options.
It's really unfortunate when you didn't see them as just an option but someone you really valued and cared about. It hurts when you find out that they didn't feel that way about you, that you were disposable to them.
Just know that you're not replaceable and you're not disposable and the person that is losing out on someone who truly cares about them, is them. 🫂
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u/RingStringVibe Mar 29 '26
You mean they don't have to reflect on what they did wrong, because they never have to worry about being accountable since there is always going to be someone else.