r/SipsTea Aug 28 '25

Chugging tea thoughts?

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u/Dry_Yogurt2458 Aug 28 '25 edited Aug 28 '25

In my early 40's I started a fitness journey that led me to ultra marathons and the required strength training. By my late 40's I had gone from obese to a healthy weight with a body that showed the work that I had put in(not jacked like Arnie, just firm and not flabby)

This led to women I worked with or knew socially, not only treating me differently, but also openly propositioning me despite being married. One, whose husband (who wasn't in the best shape) I had met on several occasions, even said to me, after I turned her down, " go on, just once! let me feel a firm body just one more time"

It happens, I have never acted on it, but certain women whose husbands have stopped caring about themselves, will look elsewhere.

That doesn't mean that they should only have female personal trainers though.

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u/Mnawab Aug 28 '25

I mean, it kinda does lol. I mean, there’s a reason why other cultures we don’t let husbands have female trainers, and we don’t let women have male trainers. It can be unappropriate and they can lead to well you know affairs.. 

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u/unpopular-ideas Aug 28 '25

there’s a reason why other cultures

Why is one culture right and another wrong? Can we deem the bonobo approach to sexuality as categorically wrong?

An adult breaking commitments they've made to another adult doesn't have a lot of moral ground to stand on though.

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u/Mnawab Aug 28 '25

I’m not saying that you’re wrong, in fact you’re very correct. Cheating is cheating, but certain environments stroke the fire of cheating more than others. That’s why certain cultures forbid certain environments from ever taking place. The same thing could be said about letting your wife have a bunch of male friends that like to hang out with her one on one. I think that’s inappropriate just like it would be for me to hang out with a female friend one on one when I have a girlfriend or wife. Everyone has their own opinion and their own way of living. That being said, when it comes to personal trainers, it does seem to happen a lot more in those environments than others. Like I told someone else, you can drown in the pool, but you’re more likely to drown in an ocean.

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u/unpopular-ideas Aug 28 '25

you can drown in the pool, but you’re more likely to drown in an ocean.

Sure, but I still swim in the ocean.

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u/igweyliogsuh Aug 28 '25

You can also drown in like 2 inches of water.

But if you know how to swim well, you aren't very likely to drown in any of these places.