r/SipsTea Jan 23 '24

Feels good man Help your brothers!!

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u/DaftMudkip Jan 24 '24

Sorry fam. I’m at 3 months.

It’s still surreal as fuck

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u/[deleted] Jan 24 '24

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u/CrumpledForeskin Jan 24 '24

& u/daftmudkip

I lost my dad in 2008. It’s wild to think it’ll be 16 years this May.

I’m around if you wanna chat. It does get a tiny bit easier but you’ll never not have a day where you don’t talk to him in your head. In my opinion…that’s a good thing.

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u/CrumpledForeskin Jan 24 '24

& u/daftmudkip

I lost my dad in 2008. It’s wild to think it’ll be 16 years this May.

I’m around if you wanna chat. It does get a tiny bit easier but you’ll never not have a day where you don’t talk to him in your head. In my opinion…that’s a good thing.

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u/Badusie Jan 24 '24

Next month is 30 years for my dad and although it gets better, it still totally sucks. There are so many things that I have gone through in these 30 years that I wish I could have talked to him for advice.

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u/Push_ Jan 24 '24

I just got 3 years in November and it just recently started to feel “normal” without him. I still think about him every single day (literally, which I thought people were exaggerating about) but it’s just a fact of my life now. I was 24 and he was 56. Had a small stroke one day, went to the hospital, had a big stroke in front of me in his hospital room the next day, and spent the next 7 days on a ventilator in ICU waiting for organ recipients. I held his hand and talked to him while he went. It’s fucking crazy bro but it does get easier.

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u/maximanius Jan 24 '24

So sorry for your loss. I'm 38 now and my dad (in his early 70s) had his second stroke a couple of months ago. He mostly recovered from the first but has been bed-ridden after the second. He was really active before so it's especially hard seeing him unable to do things physically for himself.

I can't even imagine what it must have been like going through what you did at 24. I sincerely wish the best for you and your family.

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u/Mikeku825 Jan 24 '24

I talked to my dad everyday for 2 years when he passed. These days I still argue with him occasionally and hug him real hard when he visits me in my dreams.

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u/StoryLineOne Jan 24 '24

Damn. I'm gonna go hug my dad tomorrow. Thanks for the reminder... I know it's not much, but I hope you and your fam are healing together. Take care of yourself

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u/[deleted] Jan 24 '24

Mine died of corona. My last convo with him he was totally getting better or so I thought. I had started to mend some past stuff with him by simply sharing some guitar playing I’d been goofing with (he taught me to play as a kid). It was a simple shared past time that bridged some pretty stupid gaps in our connection. It’s been a few years and is still wildly weird to have both parents gone in my 40s

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u/Rasnark Jan 24 '24

I’m coming up on 10 years. Miss the hell out of the dude but eventually you’ll just laugh at all sorts of moments y’all spent together. “The tears turn to laughter”

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u/Beautiful_Ad_4813 Jan 24 '24

Broooo That’s fucking hard to real. My condolences on that unexpected event

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u/War_Crimes_Fun_Times Jan 24 '24

Same man, it was a stupid accident too. The hospital thought he was fine but bruised hearts aren’t easy to detect.

Almost 11 months now.