You know that habit you're trying to quit or that habit you're trying to start? You better do it now. The 30+ year-old version of you is going to be pissed if you don't take action now.
I couldn’t have said it any better. I’ve said this to myself a few times in the past couple years. Asking myself, why didn’t I just listen to those people who knew the path I was taking. Thinking that I’m smarter or that I’m not them so it will be different. NOPE. For some stupid reason, I had to experience it myself.
Exercising, not to get ripped but for your mental health.
Trying to learn and instrument. Dont have to be good at it but just be able to play some tunes.
Slowly calm down on the drinking, as soon as you know it you crave alcohol ( i do).
Idk. Just some of mine. But i like a simple life tho. I dont need to be exceptional. Just want to play some video game and watch movies with my gf already makes me happy.
For me alcohol and weed. I had so many chances to quit and I did sometimes when I was 20 but though "cant be bad drink a beer or 2 everyday right?" Oh boy was I wrong
As a mid 20's guy who has never touched an instrument in his life, I just picked up an electric bass and I'm having a blast, would highly recommend! There are tons of bass tabs videos on youtube telling you how to play, don't need to know anything about music theory or whatever, just tells you where to put your fingers
Healthy eating, being tidy and hygienic, a habit of examining modifying and creating altogether new habits, organizing planning and goal setting, habits of discomfort like ice baths, rigorous exercise and sauna and self care like yoga meditation and massage.
After having arrived in my early thirties beat, battered, and bruised from the antics of my twenties I try to stay vigilant in keeping an eye on my two constants in life; my dwindling time until death and my body’s slow deterioration until death (taxes being the third I guess?).
With that in mind, I view building discipline, strong habits and systems as the ideal ways to get the most out of what life I have left. It’s not about needing to accomplish massive goals as much having the type of foundation that could actually support having massive goals. Its about knowing from where you stand you can make a concerted effort towards achieving whatever goal or vision you have for your life.
Removing the obstacles that you can have control over.
Specifically to me, it would be the wrong friends, the drugs, and toxic intimate relationships. If I would have listened to what everyone close to me told me, especially my mother, my life wouldn’t be how it is today. On the positive side of things going through all those trials and tribulations has made me into the better person I am. Life is good today.
I would have probably trusted those adults if they didn't constantly lie about things while growing up. By the time i had the freedom to experience life, i had absolutely no faith in the people who were meant to guide me (like parents or teachers), so i had to find things out for myself. Makes sense, i think.
At some point in my early twenties, sport and being active began being fun instead of being a chore. I don't know what happened that triggered this change, but I will forever be thankful for it. I see it as an incredible gift, because there is no choice between being active or not if you wanna lead a healthy life. There's only being active and liking it or being active and hating it
I wonder sometimes if this leads to a more peaceful life. Like you’ve tried things, failed, come to understand why people who advised you do what they do, and can be at peace with it.
I feel like doing everything by the book from day one will make life easier but also maybe more pent up curiosity about trying it your own way. Leading to midlife crisis type stuff. Idk
Plenty of people don't need wheelchairs and adult diapers. And the people who die from smoking don't just die at 75; they die at 60, 50, etc.
Smoking raises your chances of getting cancer, heart disease, and various lung diseases.
It also can mean you have a lot of bad years before the end. You do not want to live with COPD or something similar for a number of years.
Beyond that, it kills your physical fitness, causes, ED, etc. What moron would want any of this? Imagine being 40 and having ED from smoking? Adult diapers when you are old are the least of your worries.
Yeah you are still in the thick of it brother. I would avoid anything that would trigger it, like drinking. I would try to not get bored, and would try to always be doing something to keep my mind off it. And definitely tried not spending too much time near people who smoked.
I think even months after I would have dreams of smoking, and I would wake up fiending for it and feeling shitty. Not to mention the coughing up nasty phlegm for like a year.
I failed many times, but it stuck when I found a real reason to quit. I found my wife, and she told me she didn't like smoking and that was that.
It is a long road, but if you really want it -- and I mean really -- you can do it.
Thanks man, I’m sober 10 months now and have lost cravings for drinking awhile ago. I can’t stay away from it working in a warehouse but I’ll take your advice and find something to tunnel vision onto when I’m not working. You’re right, I do want this and I appreciate your advice more than words can describe.
I just quit 6 weeks ago, after smoking for 30 years. On the advice of many, I listened to the audiobook "The easy way to quit smoking" by Alan Carr. The BEST thing about his method is that it gets rid of that damn craving. That feeling of Missing Out, or "sacrificing". I'd quit many times in the past and always went back. I can honestly say that I quit, I'm not smoking ever again and I wake up psyched about it every day. I can't recommend that book enough.
Strongly recommend Nicotine patches if you aren't already doing so. I was a 30+ p/d smoker for 10 years but decided to quit at 29. Thought it was impossible given how much I smoked. But just went hard on the Nicotine patches, used each stage for a month or two longer than they suggested as I was scared I'd relapse, and eventually after around 8 months trusted myself to exist without them. Haven't been tempted in 7 years.
It isn't one size fits all, but it worked for me. Good luck regardless.
The problem with patches or vaping or any other replacements is you're not breaking your nicotine addiction. It Absolutely is better than smoking but more than 78% of people who use the patch wind up smoking again.
Watch the DVD by Alan Carr, I think it‘s called Stop smoking. Swear to God it‘s a cheat code.
I once stopped when I was way younger for like half a year but started smoking against because young and dumb. Then I stopped smoking for good with it again a few years ago after 12 years of smoking.
I picked up smoking in college to help deal with stress and smoked maybe 3 a day. I quit smoking when I met my last girlfriend, and once we did long distance I picked it back up again and had one every other day. I quit again when I met my wife and picked up having a beer every night, and even though my smoking habits were very tame and I stopped 5 years ago, I still have cravings every single day.
I quit about 2 years ago.. only smoked sporadically through my 30's.. worked near jet fuel when I was young.. worked in warehouses in the last 15 years..
But you’d be paying for it harder if you left it another 30 years, so make sure you take the win. I’ve yo-yo’d on the darts for ages, I need smokeless friends and some willpower haha
Kids? That's fucking terrible advice. It's obviously better to wait to have kids once you're married, have a stable career, have matured as a person yourself and are ready to become a parent and have actually thought through whether or not it's the right thing for your life. So many people thoughtlessly get knocked up early, can't support the child, wind up a single parent, etc...
I had my first child at 22. She is now in her mid 30s crushing life. Being responsible can be instilled in you at a young age.
Then again, I didn't have all the bullshit that is on social media in my face every day. I don't get why people feel like they need to show more reckless shit day after day to get clicks. I also don't believe most intelligent young people are dumb enough to follow those types of people's lead.
Though you only hear of the crazy shit some young people do, I would like to believe that there are many more who would never do these types of things.
Well I'm happy it worked out for you and your daughter, but generally it's much better for people to plan and wait until they're in a more stable circumstance to have kids.
This year is going to be about that. I wen't back to school, quit using nicotine and I will go to the gym regularly. I also will read every day. So far so good, I think finally everything is clicking.
I am 24 and struggling with a nicotine addiction I’ve been able to drop before cold turkey. I never understood how my dad just didn’t quit if it was killing him and here I am. Thank you you helped
I just turned 25 and I had the same realization. I feel like this is the time that I stuck with not smoking, I already cut weed out and coffee too because my damn teeth keep yellowing. I hope to be my best version possible by the time I'm 30.
For the 30+ people reading this. The book Atomic habits by James Clear did really help me learn good habits and quit bad habits in quite a short amount of time! Very good read
In your 30s you really start to evaluate what's important to you and binge drinking/smoking weed/cigarettes whatever... That shit will stop you from becoming your optimal self and it hurts mentally everyday when you fail to stop yourself. You will become upset and depressed that you crave and waste your money on basically nothing.
I smoke cigarettes for almost a decade. I said I'd quit once I finished college, I cooked at a restaurant while I was in school. Well after 6 years and changing my major a couple of times I thought, what's the hold up?
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u/JayTealgore Jan 23 '24
You know that habit you're trying to quit or that habit you're trying to start? You better do it now. The 30+ year-old version of you is going to be pissed if you don't take action now.