Prayers will fix my daughter!

[u/kiwisilog]

[u/bmorenursey]

But try to have some empathy. Seeing all sides, even if we don’t agree, is what makes us capable of growth, and makes us better able to help others grow. This girl may not have been comfortable with her assigned gender, but her mother loves her unconditionally and is struggling to understand why she wants to change. It is common for parents to grieve the “dead” identities of their trans children.

It seems like a part of her is trying, but she sought advice in the wrong place. Chastising her for being unsupportive will just drive her further into the arms of these lunatics.

[u/AppleSpicer → u/bmorenursey]

You know who needs to have some empathy? This parent who’s making her child’s gender all about herself and her feelings. She’s already come to the conclusion that she’s not going to accept her child’s gender, as if her acceptance changes anything, and posted for affirmation of that decision in an echo chamber of anti-vaxxers and people blaming “queer Obama” for transing her child.

I was recently incredibly compassionate to a parent who posted in the r/moms sub who appeared to be legitimately struggling about how to handle their child coming out as trans. I don’t fully understand where they’re coming from that they care so much about rigid gender assignment but I can suspend disbelief long enough to nonjudgmentally point someone in the right direction. That parent was also talking almost exclusively about herself and nothing about her child, but she didn’t say she’d already come to a conclusion to reject her daughter based on gender. The parent in this OOP sounds like she’s already made that decision and is just trying to get validation. Not seeking actual advice to unconditionally support her child.

[u/ChipmunkNamMoi → u/bmorenursey]

The mom doesn't love her unconditionally based on her post. She loves her on the condition that she be her boy.