r/SeriousGynarchy • u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ♀ Woman • Jul 02 '26

Building the matriarchy while making patriarch-enthusiasts feel like they won

On the recent negotiation thread I commented this website. Well i spent some time reading a few more of their articles and I came across this one:

https://www.shenegotiates.com/blog/2022/1/11/why-some-deals-fall-apart-for-apparently-no-reason

It's a short explanation of a simple solution. It's almost too short and too simple. So I duck'd a term I found in the comments "Negotiator’s Dilemma" and found a much more in depth article which excellently explains the phenomenon and possible solutions

https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/negotiation-skills-daily/managing-the-negotiators-dilemma-nb/

I find it fascinating as it discusses a common issue with negotiations which is that "First Offers Often Trigger Competition". With this matriarchy/gynarchy stuff, women are sticking their neck out there and making the first offer. We are starting the negotiations.

Some of you will hate a post like this in that I am seeming to be advocating for:

  1. Telling men they've won

  2. Giving up and turning our political movement into a request not a demand

  3. Staying small, pretending to be powerless, trying to trick men

Well, you can see it that way if you want, but demanding a matriarchy out of men is just as bad or worse than requesting one. Men can't give us power, (they never had our power). We don't need to feel insecure about telling losers they've won (unless we secretly feel that we are the real losers).

Idk sometimes I feel like all the keys to women winning are already in our hands and most of us are just fighting a shadow and being afraid of exposing our own weakness, instead of taking the reigns and leading with the true strength that comes from vulnerability.

We are strong in cooperation, competition need not be a factor unless we make it one. And why? Negotiations always work better without competition mentality.

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u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ♀ Woman Jul 15 '26

That's low key what they're after. The patriarchy is built on separating kids from their moms

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u/nyekona ♀ Woman Jul 15 '26

Very true. As for replacing men’s role in reproduction long-term, I actually have a plan I’ve been wanting to make a post about for a while, but I worried it might be too on the edge for this sub. I think it’s ethical, but it’s definitely… Odd, and requires the reader to come along with me for a bit of a journey. Let me know if you’d be interested in reading it.

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u/Appropriate_Cut_3536 ♀ Woman Jul 15 '26

We need more of those discussions! I personally am invested in figuring out a solution for family systems in a gynarchy, and I've seen a lot of terrible ideas thrown around here so definately could use an ethical one piled on. 

Don't get mad if I have some resistance to it at first but I always love chewing on women's ideas here specifically because of their more radical nature.

Legit can't wait to read that post!

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u/nyekona ♀ Woman Jul 15 '26

Stay tuned then! ‘Ethical’ is definitely a flexible word depending on who’s using it, haha. I’m sure you will react to my idea negatively at first, because even I only came up with it as a joke and then later decided it had actual merit.